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moh and Bridesmaids

NM&GD, on November 11, 2019 at 10:11 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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MOH and bridesmaids:
So, I recently got engaged on October 16th. My fiance and myself decided that we wanted to have our siblings by our sides so his sister is his Best Man/Best Woman and my brother is my Maid of Honor/Man of Honor. Now, this is where I am running into an issue. I was/am basing my bridesmaids off my groups of friends that I have that, mind you, have never mingled together so to say. We've never been all in the same room at the same time. So, I have my work, high school, college, and family (or cousins). They are all UNBELIEVABLY different. How or when should I get them all together? Mind you my brother could give two you know whats because he is unbelievably laid back. Also, though we have our MOH and BestM picked, he is going to have a '2nd' best man who is his best friend, so should I have a second MOH and should I be worried about 'competition' so to say?

Thanks in advance

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Latest activity by Valerie, on November 14, 2019 at 10:24 PM

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Kelly · on November 11, 2019 at 10:15 PM
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All of my bridesmaids were from different stages of my life and a lot of them had never met before. They met at the rehearsal the night before the wedding. And about the second MOH it’s up to you, you don’t have to base who you have on what your fiancé is doing.
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Devoted December 2019
Stefanie · on November 11, 2019 at 11:26 PM
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If you just want one you can stay like that, I don’t think it would be bad, also I don’t think the fact that they don’t know each other should be a problem, everything will work out
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Caytlyn · on November 12, 2019 at 7:37 AM
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You definitely shouldn't have another MOH just because your FH has two best men.
It's completely unnecessary to try to get all of your wedding party together. They don't need to know each other or be friends, they just need to tolerate each other for the wedding and any pre-wedding events they decide to attend.
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Savvy April 2021
NM&GD · on November 12, 2019 at 8:21 AM
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The issue is with them not knowing one another they are all kinda a separate part of me so to say and I'm like 99.99% positive that there will a clash of opinion. So, I am curious if I should introduce before hand to get them all on the same page?
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Melle · on November 12, 2019 at 12:49 PM
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My bridal party didn't know each other either and I made a chatroom for them to introduce themselves but they didn't ever meet til my bridal shower day
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Nicole · on November 14, 2019 at 12:15 AM
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I don't think you need to have the meet before. They will meet at your bridal shower/bachelorette. They don't need to become friends with each other, just friendly and supportive on your wedding day.
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Valerie · on November 14, 2019 at 10:24 PM
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There’s no such thing as competition. Everyone is there to support you and make your day special and celebrate you. If 2 people aren’t mature enough to share the title then I would reconsider asking them to stand up in your wedding. As for differences in personalities, that is completely fine. You are allowed to have people who don’t know each other because either way they are there to celebrate you and support you. That’s awesome that you have friends from different stages of your life. I have the same thing... family, high school friends, work friend, and work friends from an entirely different job.
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