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Just Said Yes August 2022

moh and bridesmaid might cancel on my wedding

EJ, on January 19, 2022 at 8:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 3
I got engaged months ago and shortly after my MOH and a bridesmaid both told me they’re each trying to get pregnant. I wouldn’t care if they’re pregnant at the wedding except both have to travel in. My wedding is right around 9mo away. One of them said she’d tell me immediately once she knows and that she’d travel as long into the pregnancy as was safe (yes, I know things come up unexpectedly that could shorten the timeframe she can travel). The other one said she doesn’t know if she’ll tell me sooner than 3mo after finding out and that travel will be based on “how she feels” while pregnant. I’d like to make sure I can have other friends take their place if either have to cancel but I’m not sure how to plan around the one who won’t tell me until late. Should I ask her to not be in the wedding just in case?? Should I wait a little longer?? How late is too late to ask someone else? I have no idea how to plan around people in the wedding party possibly dropping out like this

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Latest activity by Jacks, on January 20, 2022 at 1:33 PM
  • Charlotte
    Dedicated June 2022
    Charlotte ·
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    Moral of the story, don’t stress! If people drop out, it won’t be the end of the world. One of my bridesmaids wasn’t sure she would be able to make my wedding due to potentially joining the peace corp! When I asked her I told her if she needed to back out last minute there would be no hard feelings! Stuff happens, and especially with COVID right now, no one is actually guaranteed to be able to go to anyone’s wedding. If I were you, I’d proceed as planned. It’s totally okay to have an uneven wedding party! You could ask friends last minute but then you would put stress on you and them to find and order a matching dress in time. You might save yourself a lot of trouble by just proceeding as planned.
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  • Monica
    Devoted August 2021
    Monica ·
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    My MOH had her baby 6 days before our wedding. She was an absolute rock star and came to everything as much as possible, but it was iffy for a while if she would be able to be there at all. I never thought about replacing her though or not asking her to be in it in the first place! You choose your people because they're your people... Not because they may or may not attend your wedding. I would still ask if you really want those two to be in your wedding party!
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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    So, yes I think your friends may have to make their plans tentative, because you really don't know what will happen, as you said.

    One thing though it's not really a good idea to "replace" your wedding party members. They're not props. It might end up making the people that were replaced feel bad and the second choice people feel ... well, like second choice.

    I hope it all works out.

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