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moh and bridal shower

Katie, on June 29, 2019 at 7:41 AM Posted in Planning 0 7

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Hi! So my MOH is my best friend of ten years and I want to start off by saying that we are not arguing in the least but I was hoping she would take my suggestions .
my MOH and my mother are planning my bridal shower. I suggested it be at my house (that I just bought) because I don’t like a lot of attention and it would be where I am most comfortable. My MOH said no. She said that they were going to rent a hall. Which is great but she’s right on money what with having a baby and my mom is retired . So then I suggested a bridal brunch at a restaurant and everyone pay for their meal. She said I need to stop being ocd and let her do it. I just don’t know if I should address it again because I don’t want my mom or my moh to go broke on throwing me a bridal shower!

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Latest activity by Katie, on July 6, 2019 at 4:34 PM

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Sarah · on June 29, 2019 at 7:45 AM
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You need to let this go. They’re generously throwing a party in your honor. Beyond the guest list and the general area for location(town or surrounding area), I don’t think you should have a say. I doubt they’re going to do anything that will cause them to be broke. Guests shouldn’t be paying for their own meals so I completely agree that that isn’t a good idea.
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Caytlyn · on June 29, 2019 at 7:51 AM
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They offered to host a shower for you, let them do it. If you don't think they're capable or you can't give up the control to someone else, politely decline their offer. Your MOH is correct that it wouldn't be proper to invite someone to an event then make all of the guests pay for themselves. It sounds like she has a pretty good idea of what she's doing.
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Kelly · on June 29, 2019 at 8:57 AM
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Having people pay for themselves won't be a good idea.
That being said instead of suggesting places or things you could just get right to the point and tell them you would like a more low key shower and want them to know you are mindful of their budgets and don't want them to financially comprise themselves over it. I'm sure they will be fine and you should just trust them to do it.
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Melle · on June 29, 2019 at 12:34 PM
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Just let them plan it.
I had the same mindset as you! I was offering help and saying I want to be considerate of everyone time and money but in the end they were just like no we wanna do this for you.
It's nice of you to offer
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Laura · on June 29, 2019 at 12:47 PM
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I’ve had to do the same with MOH in other areas. She’s insisting on doing the card box, a “Flip flop parking” sign (beach wedding) and something else (I forgot what). She also bought her dress in two different colors in case I changed my mind about my color. Several times I’ve said something to her, she says “Don’t worry about it, it’s your wedding.”

Long winded way of saying: let it go. If they are insisting, let them. They have their reasons, and their love for you & your happiness tops that list. Give them the gift of doing for you; I’m sure you’ve done for them.
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Katie · on July 6, 2019 at 4:33 PM
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I think I’m just going to let it go and let it be whatever they plan
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Katie · on July 6, 2019 at 4:34 PM
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True! I just don’t want something that’s placing a lot go attention on myself
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