moh and Best Man, a hindrance, not a help

If they have the required attire, just stop talking about the wedding with them. Some people are just difficult. Replacing them at this point would likely end those relationships and cause some serious drama so I wouldn’t do that.

Good point, I do think that replacing them would cause serious drama and I am already dealing with enough of that. Thanks for the reply! I will keep them out of the loop until the need to be in the loop lol

I don't think they're worth replacing aha moreso either cut them out or just be like yo this is the color and I'm legit not changing it cus these are just the colors so wear it or not or be a guest up to you.

I would just put them in check and say you know if you don’t want to be in the wedding no one is forcing you, however this is our day, and if you don’t want it my way than I don’t know what to tell you. I would do what you wanted for your day so I don’t know why it’s difficult to do what I want for one day. Something like that to make them realize they are being petty and difficult for no reason. Good luck!

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Lol I like "yo this is the color".

I agree with PP. Don't bother replacing them at this point but if they are so insistent on being so difficult, especially if you've talked to them already, I see nothing wrong with kicking them out if you feel like that's the only option.

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I have tried that with the best man and he wasn't having it. But I haven't tried it with my sister. She is sensitive so I will try that in a tip-toe way.

Thanks!

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I told my mom that if they keep pushing my I will just wrap a yellow ribbon around her (her dress isn't yellow) and put her in my sister's place haha

View Quoted Comment My sister was always jealous and was threatening to dye her hair rainbow before the wedding and all these crazy things she thought would bother me and I didn’t care, it’s her body. So I just ignored her or said “that’s a good idea” and she didn’t do them, she did pierce her nose in the middle and she died her hair dark purple but it didn’t matter to me as long as she had her dress. She started to say she was going to wear a different dress and I said that’s fine but you won’t be in the wedding so your choice. Hope it goes well, you deserve a day focused on you! 😊

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The dress really is all that matters. Thank you for the response

I would just make sure they have the outfits you and FH chose. And as others have said, just don't discuss the wedding with them. THey sound entitled.

It’s so close that I would just not talk about things with them. If they have purchased the attire you asked them to then just let it go. They don’t have the right to an opinion, it’s YOUR day so just try to keep them out of things they don’t need to be involved in for now.

They are VERY entitled. Don't know how it happened that they both are the same person essentially but it is causing me much grief lol

Thank you Cindy, I didn't want to sound like a bridezilla but really, it is my day, not theirs.

If they are required to pay for their outfits then I think it's fair to give them at least some say in what they are. Also, you dont' get to replace the best man for any reason - let your FI handle it.

Just stop talking about this with your sister. Tell her what to buy, and if she doesn't have it by your wedding day, then she's not in the wedding. It's not worth stressing over.

View Quoted Comment I’m going to have to try saying this to my MOH. She’s the only thing stressing me out for our wedding in 3 days. She’s fighting me on the make I want done, (which I’m doing and they aren’t having to pay for anything) and on which shoes to wear, (she’s 6’ and wants to wear 4” heels, rest of the girls including me are 5’5 and shorter so she already towers over us. )

She told me last night that I don’t get to have everything my way.
Sorry you are going through this too. Having her in the wedding is my only regret so far and I know the friendship will not continue after the wedding.

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I agree. They have to pay for the outfits, and actually wear them. They should have a say.

This probably won't be a popular response, but I would bow out of the wedding party and attend as a guest before I would wear yellow. It's not a good color on everyone, and looks awful on me.

Maybe you should give her the option to attend as a guest. If she says ok, then she genuinely doesn't like the color. If she says she'll stay on as MOH, then she's just being difficult and you should ignore her.

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Theresa, she actually made herself the MOH. There are other people I would have picked but she insisted. So she really is just being difficult. And she doesn't have to pay for the dress, my dad is paying for it.

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Devin, I feel like her telling you that you can't get anything you want would be the last straw for me. I would have to just tell her that she can be a guest, and then maybe when she freaks out I would repeat her words right back to her, but I'm petty lol. It sucks that the people we picked to be the most helpful are actually the least helpful. Sorry about that. Hope you have a wonderful wedding, and congrats!

View Quoted Comment I am sorry you’re going through this but I am glad I could help. Wishing you all the best!