moh advice (long post)

I got engaged in July 2019 and elected one of my best fiends to be my MOH. I am not close with my mom and my sister passed away years ago so holding that position really meant a lot for me. (One of the reasons I wanted to elope b/c I always imagined my sister by my side) Then my MOH gets engaged 4 months later and she elected me as her MOH. Just recently my FH made a career change and we are having to sell our house and move across states and start new jobs all within a few months of our wedding. Fortunately we have the big things already planned and set in stone. My FH and I didn’t grow up in a privileged family so we are making the ultimate sacrifice to pay for everything (not a big deal, I know lots of couples who do this) however, I feel like me and my friend being each other’s MOH is putting strain on our friendship. I am having to plan and pay forth towards my Bach party (my MOH has other plans that weekend) but she keeps asking me about planning her Bach party which she wants to do two weekends after my wedding. Keep in mind, I am moving across states (to Colorado) so my Bach weekend will be in Colorado instead, our wedding is still in MN which we will have to travel to in June and then she wants me to travel back two weeks after my wedding all the while planning out her weekend when I’m already up to my head with all of my stuff (Bach party, wedding, selling house, buying house, starting new career). Her wedding is at the end of August. Has anyone ever experienced something like this where the both of you were each other’s MOH? I feel like we’re not able to support each other like a MOH is supposed to which sucks because obviously I really want to be there for her but I’m struggling just to keep my head up in my own stuff.