Models of Marriage

In my culture divorce is a stigma they view as a failure. Which is totally wrong because sometimes things just don't work out anymore and instead of staying in a loveless unhappy marriage you could be free and happy but nope. My parents are one of those couples.
Ive watched my parents communicate so badly such as not telling each other what they want or how they feel and what not, they just jump into a fight.

I definitely did NOT see ANY lifelong commitments in my immediate family. My grandma was married 8 times, 3 of those remarrying a few times. My parents go divorced. My father's parents weren't together or really in my life. Some of my friends parents growing up had been together for a long time, and a few of my more recent friends have parents with healthy relationships. It has definitely made me a little concerned about marriage sometimes, but I know that I am not them, and neither is my fiance. We have taken our relationship much slower and more responsibly than my other family members did.

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How has your experience affected your views on the concept of marriage?

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I'm glad that you were able to learn from your families relationships even though they weren't the best examples.

We use the experience of my family as a template of what not to do! His parents and our friend group's parents are great models of how to make it work.

I told him early in our relationship that was a big part of why I was even willing to try out the relationship. At least one of us would have experience in the type of life we want our (future) kids to have. And the other has a good idea of the warning signs when it goes off track.

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My husband and I can only pray that we are models of how marriage should be for our future children. So often our families fail us in being role models and end up examples of what not to do.