MOB/MOG dress

Let her wear whatever she wants that is comfortable and makes her feel good.

Let them wear whatever they want/feel good in

I agree with the other you should let them wear whatever they want. If your wanting them to match the color scheme maybe both can wear mint colored dresses with grey accents. I didn't see you had mentioned anyone was wearing mint

I've seen some great MOB/MOG neutral colored dresses. But I think my favorites are the moms who rock metalics! I love seeing MOB/MOGs in silver, bronze and gold dresses. It sounds like maybe silver could work here?

But I really think anything is okay, as long as it doesn't clash.

I think the mothers would be fine In gray. I'm doing a gray wedding party and plan on having my mom and fmil both in a shade of gray. They don't even have to be the same color or match the bridal party but I believe they should go somewhat with the color scheme.

I'm not sure, that's just what my FMIL said. I don't know all the rules lol but I was thinking the same thing and I had already told his mom to get whatever she liked. She's very traditional and I think that might be why she's making it a little more complicated than it needs to be. I'm completely fine with them wearing whatever they want. I guess I will try that route again and see if I can convince her that she will be fine with whatever she picks out

Thank you!

@Rosemary - there's some etiquette that says that the MOB picks her dress first and then tells and shows the MOG so the MOG can understand the correct formality level. I think the etiquette is really outdated.

I like it better when the moms don't match the bridal party!

Traditionally, the mother of the bride picks first to that they don't wear the same thing/she can dictate formality. I thin it'd weird to have them complement the bridal party unless that's what they pick. They're not accessories, they're your mothers.

Edit: Our moms coordinated on both wearing formal, floor length gowns. That's where the idea of the mother of the bride picking first comes from so one isn't under/overdressed.

Thats a great idea @Ashley! I never even thought about suggesting a gray metallic dress! I love that idea

My MIL said the same thing. She refused to dress shop until my mother had her dress picked. She said it was polite and that they shouldn't get the same color.

I let them pick whatever they wanted. I wasn't really picky. Our colors were black, grey and reds. My mom chose taupe and MIL chose eggplant. Neither matched our colors but they meshed well. Both fallish and that's what we were going for.

Let them choose whatever color they want. As long as its a color that will mesh well with yours it doesn't need to be part of your color scheme.

My mom has a navy dress and my FMIL has a navy dress. FMIL was worried about matching, but my mom could care less. I told them to pick any dress and any color they liked and frankly though they're the "same" color the dresses are completely different.

The moms should wear whatever they want - don't worry about the color. I also agree its odd to be in a similar color as the bridesmaids. The only thing you might need to guide them on is the formality of the dress (however, as MOB and MOG they are definitely guests of honor, so more formal than not is okay!) and I would suggest the color be season-appropriate, but they probably already know that unless they have no fashion sense They may be interested in knowing what the other is wearing, simply so they don't wear the same color or something too similar. This is what our moms wore!

ETA: Our BM were in blue, so as you can see, they did not match the BM lol but all the colors complimented nicely.

"that's where the idea of the mother of the bride picking first comes from so one isn't under/overdressed."

Exactly- it's just to help set tone so no one feels weird about it.

My only issue will be black- I don't really care if people wear black- my only issue is I don't want our wedding to look like a funeral... to much black- and it's going to be ridiculous I get that it's a popular color and easy to wear. but- to much black is bad LOL

I'd let them wear whatever they want! My FMIL is wanting to wait until my mom picks as well, but I told her to just get whatever. She's a fashionista and will rock whatever she picks! My mom isn't comfortable choosing yet, but I'm sure her outfit/dress whatever will be fine too!

Side note: My best friend from college had her MIL try to wear white and do an outfit change in the middle of the reception! LOL! By the sounds of it, you don't have to worry about that!

I guess I am a fan of the "old tradition" as well. I wanted my mother to pick hers out first (she has an interesting body type so I wanted it to be something that felt comfortable but looked good). Funnily enough, my mother and I had the same "vision" for her outfit, and she totally nailed it.

As for FMIL, all I really want is the length to be the same and for her to not get something too flashy (it would just look out of place based on the style of wedding we're having) but after that point, totally her call as I want her to be comfortable. I made some suggestions, but by no means did I make them requirements.

I think you can kind of make your own rules for this in some sense. It would be more bride-zilla-ish to dictate EXACTLY what she should wear, but offering guidelines is helpful. Personally, I wouldn't recommend grey if your bridesmaids and groomsmen are already wearing the color. Navy would look good with your scheme, imo.