Mob/mog dress color

I've seen mom's wear the same as the bridal party. Mom should wear what she feels beautiful in! As for me, I didn't set out to match the BP's for my daughter's weddings but ended up with a black and ivory dress for our 1st wedding this year and the BM's are wearing black. I'm wearing champagne and ivory for our November wedding and the BM's are wearing biscotti (close to champagne). Personally I don't care what color the MOG's wear as long as they love their dress. Both my daughters feel the same way.

ETA: color chart from David's Bridal which shows if the bridal party is wearing purple there are shades of purple suggested for the moms ...... How to Color Coordinate

Typically the mothers of the bride and groom shouldn't be wearing the same colour as the bridal party. I guess it comes down to if you are okay with this or not. If it was me I would ask my mom to find another colour so she can stand out from the bridal party.

My MOB and MOG are wearing the same color; not the exact same but something similar

Before getting engaged I knew multiple MOB and MOG get salty if the one picked out the dress or color before the other. I had just heard growing up that they shouldn't match and get to pick their own color since it is a special day for them. Now as a bride I don't see the big deal. My mom will match my bridal party since she wanted to wear black and I think it is pretty awesome. I do know my mom would be pretty salty though if the MOG tried to wear the same color as her. Everyone is different in that thinking.

The mothers should wear whatever makes them feel beautiful and confident. It doesn't matter what color anyone else is wearing

We had our moms pick whatever dress and color they wanted. Our wedding color was bright blue and my mom wore navy, and I thought that looked really nice. It complimented without looking over-planned. I think the only issue here is your FMIL saying she isn't happy about the color choice your mom has made. What did she say? What is her concern? Does she expect you to do something about it? She wants to wear the same color as the wedding party but she wants your mother to wear a different color? That seems a little odd to me.

My bridal party is wearing black and both mothers code to wear black as well. Doesn’t bother me one bit and it doesn’t bother either one that they are both wearing black either. I just want them both to feel beautiful and comfortable

I think it would be perfectly fine if they each wore a different shade of purple. One can be light and the other darker. There’s like a million colors in the purple family that could coordinate with the BP but not clash or look like they’re wearing the same color. Your FMIL needs to get over it. It’s not like they’ll be in the same dress or same color.
My mom found her dress “on accident” when we were out shopping one day (we went into a store to look and I made her try on a billion dresses and she found the one lol). Which I’m super glad for because I didn’t want her and FMIL in the same color so I was trying to get my mom to find her dress first. Then I told FMIL that her dress needs to be a different color because I don’t want them matching.
Also, just noticed you’re the girl who posted about how her FMIL is a....peach lol. So tread carefully but like maybe pull up a chart of the 1,000 variations of purple that there is and show FMIL that the moms can both wear purple. Or if you wanna be real petty I would have my mom wear an awesome sequined gown or something to upstage her (kidding, kind of??) GOOD LUCK 💜

Not at all! Different shades of purple would be so pretty

My mom is wearing a black dress with navy and pink flowers, my step mom is wearing all black and MOG is wearing silver/grey. My BM are in all black

I tried to let my mother and FMIL wear whatever they wanted, but they wanted me to give them a specific color. Since our wedding colors are shades of purple (wisteria and grape from Azazie) and gray/silver, they are wearing silver/dark gray.

My mom is wearing a darker shade and FMIL is wearing silver. I gave them the silver and steel gray swatches from Azazie. I think FMIL is going to have the dress made so she's going to try and order fabric from there.

Thank you all for your advice. I don't have a problem at all with whatever color they choose...just NOT WHITE. Its my FMIL who is making a fuss about it. She wants to wear purple and doesn't want my mother to wear purple. She thinks bc she is paying for the wedding she can have whatever she wants. She is def WRONG!!! Im letting my mother pick whatever color and dress she wants and feels most comfortable/beautiful in. FMIL already had her daughters wedding. This is my mothers only chance for a wedding. I have 4 brothers. One had a destination elopement my mother could not attend and the others will prob not get married. I want my mother to be happy and comfortable. FMIL needs to really chill out!!!!

I don't think so! My bridesmaids will be in light blue, so I told the mom's it would be best if they were in blue, green, or tan. Then the pictures would look best and still match without matching TOO much. I think your FMIL should realize she can't claim your wedding color, she didn't choose it, you did!