FutureMrsHaven
Devoted September 2018

mob & mog wearing same color?

FutureMrsHaven, on August 3, 2018 at 2:13 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 32
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Is it some sort of rule that the MOB and MOG can’t wear the same color? My FMIL got her dress months ago, from what I remember it’s lavender (my mom swears it’s mauve). My mom (a bit of a procrastinator) just got hers today and told me it’s purple.. supposedly it’s royal purple but I haven’t seen it yet. Is it ok if they’re both wearing a shade of purple? I’m probably overthinking things. The wedding is in 29 days and the stress is definitely getting to me!

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Latest activity by Brittany, on August 8, 2018 at 11:25 AM
  • Sara
    Super July 2019
    Sara ·
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    I'd say you're overthinking it. I don't think anyone would notice!

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  • Mrs.Sanok
    VIP September 2018
    Mrs.Sanok ·
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    I would say do not stress about it. They are different shades of purple which is pretty much different colors! I feel it is not worth stressing over it and causing your self more trouble right before the wedding!

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  • NVV2B
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    NVV2B ·
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    I don't think there is really any sort of rule to this. The only thing I have heard of is that the MOB buys her dress first and the MOG buys second? I guess so they don't end up with the same or similar dresses? I dont know the reason behind it, but that is literally the only thing I have heard about MOG & MOB dress "rules".


    IMO I dont think it matters at all. Especially since it sounds like they are very different shades of purple.

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  • FutureMrsHaven
    Devoted September 2018
    FutureMrsHaven ·
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    Thanks everyone!! I feel relieved!! Smiley smile
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  • CountryBride
    Dedicated May 2019
    CountryBride ·
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    This is has been such a HUGE debate with my FMIL and I except she is going by this rule I didn't know existed about them not wearing the same color. My wedding color is purple (wisteria). FMIL wanted to wear a shade of purple, my mother wants to wear purple. FMIL has caused so much stress over this. I kept telling her "I don't care what color you both wear!!!" I didn't care if they wore the same color. She was the one that had the problem. Well FMIL bought her dress last week and it is navy blue. So now my mom is free to wear any other color besides navy blue.

    I also asked this question when my FMIL was harping on it and the general census and answers were let them wear whatever color they want. They are adults and can dress themselves. If you, the bride has a preference then tell them, otherwise let them dress themselves.

    Good Luck!

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  • K
    Expert February 2019
    Kelsey ·
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    I dont think it matter if they wear the same color. I wouldnt stress
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  • FutureMrsHaven
    Devoted September 2018
    FutureMrsHaven ·
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    Thank you!! I‘m glad they were able to resolve the issue Smiley smile
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  • J
    Savvy October 2018
    Jessica ·
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    My mom bought her dress first, navy... his mom asked to see my moms dress- to get an idea so they didn’t match. She bought practically the same dress! 😡 moms is a slightly darker shade of navy, FMIL is closer to a royal blue but other than that and the sleeve length they’re basically the same. My mom was upset. I’m an only child so this is her only chance to be MOB, FMIL has opportunity to be the mother in 2 other children’s wedding.
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  • Brae
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    It wouldn't matter to me. My fmil really likes traditions though and apparently there's one where the mog wears blue and the mob wears pink. I told her I dont care what color she wears. She wants blue which is fine to me, I told her the bridesmaids are wearing dusty blue and I dont care if she matches but if that would influence the shade she wanted, I wanted to let her know. My mom is wearing deep purple because that specific color was on sale lol.
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  • Officiallymrs
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    Officiallymrs ·
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    I think you should let them both be comfortable !? I can’t remember what any MOB or mog wore to any of the weddings I’ve attended honestly !Smiley smile
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  • OG Gretchen
    Super June 2018
    OG Gretchen ·
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    Maybe FMIL focused on the color more than the style? If it makes you feel better, I have been to 3 weddings in 2 months and couldn't tell you what any of the mothers wore, so i doubt anyone will even notice.

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  • WED18
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    WED18 ·
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    There is no rule and I’ve seen it before. No big deal. Wouldn’t matter to me one bit.

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  • Mrs. G
    Devoted April 2019
    Mrs. G ·
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    I guess this depends more on who your family is? I have never. heard of this nor have I ever paid any attention to what the MOB or MOG are wearing. So I say it doesn't matter at all.

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  • Mrs. Jones
    Expert May 2018
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    I think its okay!!

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  • Allie
    Super September 2018
    Allie ·
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    Yeah I agree with others, it shouldnt be an issue! lol! Dont give yourself another thing to worry about Smiley winking

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
    FutureMrsKC ·
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    Its totally fine if they wear the same color!

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  • queenbee
    VIP October 2018
    queenbee ·
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    Yeah I think it’s fine if they wear the same color, but a different shade! Light purple and a darker purple sounds like what they did. I was really adamant about our mothers not wearing the same color, just because I wanted my mom to stand out on her own. She would’ve been sad if FMIL tried to wear the same color as her lol.
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  • H
    November 2018
    happeningmom ·
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    In the old days...lol....actually about 10-20 years ago the MOB would purchase her dress first. Based upon her choice it would dictate the length, style, and color the MOG was to purchase. The only thing that matters now is that the color that the mothers wear do not clash with either what the other is wearing, your wedding colors, or match the color or is a similar shade of the bride.
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  • Bianca
    Super August 2019
    Bianca ·
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    I think it's fine. My FMIL want's to coordinate her dress colour with my moms, so it's not an isolated incident with your mom and FMIL!

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  • Alyrae
    Super February 2020
    Alyrae ·
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    I think it will be totally fine .... Don't over think relax and just be ready for the wedding you have coming up super soon.
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