MOB feiling guilty for not being able to help more financially

It's definitely understandable that you feel bad, but you shouldn't. My parents wish that they could help out more with our wedding (they are paying for the church and photographer), but they are helping with all that they can and that's all that matters. I want them there to celebrate our day with us and enjoy it. To me it doesn't matter who pays for what, as long as we can celebrate with our families. So don't feel bad and enjoy your daughter's wedding with her and her FH.

Don't feel guilty.

You're not expected to pay for your daughters wedding. If you can help..you help where you can. I'm sure your daughter is very grateful (or at least, she should be) for what you are able to do!

Don't feel bad. Atleast you are able to help with something. My mother has been in and out of work and won't be able to help at all. And my father lives off disability and lives in my home, he won't be able to help at all either. I completely understand and will be paying for everything myself.. I want to ask my FIL if he can help because he is very well off, but I feel to uncomfortable to do so. But I'm saying as the daughters point of view not to stress and I'm sure she completely understands!

Don't feel guilty. You are doing more than enough and I hope your daughter sees that. Don't compare yourself to what MOG's family is doing

It's ok it's the way of the world now it seems! It doesn't mean you're any less thrilled for your daughter! Plus you are still contributing!

Don't feel guilty. My mom is paying for the DJ and that's it and I feel horrible even having her do that knowing her situation. Your daughter is just going to be happy that you're part of the planning process and that you'll be there on her big day. It's not all about money, it's about the memories you will create with her. Just be there for her in other ways if you can, helping her plan, helping her make DIY stuff and just the simple things.

You're probably feeling guilty because you wish you could be doing more. The love you have for your daughter, and the love that she has for you, has nothing to do with how much you are contributing to her wedding. I am sure that all she wants and needs from you is your love and support.

Please don't feel bad! My parents aren't able to contribute monetarily to our wedding besides buying my dress. Honestly, I wouldn't want it any other way. They're retired, so I don't want them spending any money for what equates to a party for me. FH and I can handle it. His parents are able to contribute much more than mine, but I'm struggling with feeling guilty about taking their offer.

Enjoy this time with your daughter. I'm much happier having my parents as my sounding board and cheerleaders than I would be taking their money. I hope your daughter sees how lucky she is that you are by her side!

Your presents at the wedding is much more important than any financial presents you could offer.

It's a wedding, not a competition

And it's all about love--love your daughter and your fsil and all will be well!

I'm a daughter of a mother and a father who cannot help much financially for our wedding. My dad feels absolutely terrible for this, but I told him don't. Their support and love is enough. They're helping in more ways then they know though. My mom is doing all of our flowers (she's a florist and I won't have very many flowers. Just bouquets and centerpieces which I will be able to help with), she pays on my dress when she can, and my dad is cutting all of the wood slabs and sealing them for me. In my eyes, they are doing plenty. I'm sure your daughter feels equally the same.

As a parent you always want to provide for your children. There is no need to feel guilty about this. You are providing something and it's the thought that counts. She would love and appreciate you even if you were unable to provide any monetary amount.

Don't feel guilty at all! I'm an older first time bride and my parents would love to help more but they're retired. Frankly I'd rather they be able to support themselves comfortably during their golden years than to help fund my party. I'm extremely grateful and appreciative that they offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, which they didn't have to do. I'm just happy they'll be there and are supportive of me and their new son!

One message we often send to brides-to-be is that, at the end of the day, it's their responsibility to pay for their own wedding. If anyone offers money that's just a bonus - nobody should expect their parents to pay, especially if they're facing financial hardship.

I think your concern demonstrates what a loving, stellar mother you are. I'm sure your daughter and FSIL will appreciate any support you're able to offer, whether it's flowers or your unconditional love. As Nonna said, it's not a competition, and if anyone gives you grief for not "paying" more, then they're shitty people! You're a wonderful mom, don't forget that.

I'm sorry you are feeing this way. It's natural to want the best for your daughter and to feel like it should be you to give it her. Feel blessed that she is able to have a great wedding and that you are able to help in some ways. She will be so proud to look back at the photos with the flowers you bought knowing that they were from you. Your heart is in the right place and I'd chose my mothers love over her money any day.