MOB colors/dress

I think eggplant would look okay with those colors possibly. If you're doing formal I think that is a formal color and appropriate for an evening gown. My wedding also has red but I'm also having other bright colors like yellow and turquoise. My mom has asked what color to wear so since she asked I've suggested other bright colors and that's all I've said. As long as it isn't white or black or super dark I think it'll be okay. I think you can give your mom suggestions but that's about it. I don't see a problem with eggplant unless you hate that color for some reason.

I am not sure that there is specific etiquette for this.

My mom was surprised when I didn't tell her exactly which color to wear. The only guidance I have given her is similar to yours- it should be long, not white, and should complement the wedding colors of teal, charcoal gray, and ivory.

Eggplant is tricky with red. Have you seen the exact shade and compared it to your red? That might help. Also, you might try gently reminding her that she will be in pictures with bridesmaids (assuming your sister is in the wedding) and will want to complement those dresses.

My mom can wear whatever she wants to my wedding! why would you want your mom to match your bridesmaids anyway?

I saw the picture of the dress. It is very flattering on her, I just didn't think it would go well. My mom loves purple and has been stuck on having some type of purple dress. My sister and I have told her she will be in pictures. My sister is the MOH.

I let my mom pick whatever dress she wanted, but she let me give a stamp of approval on the color. However, when I posted a similar question to this everyone said that the mothers get to wear whatever they want so I guess its up to you if you want to fight it.

I let my mom pick the dress, and I just asked her to wear something that compliments our colors. She did a good job.

Your mom is an adult and can dress herself. She can wear whatever she wants. You don't get to dictate her attire.

I think she should complement your color scheme. Why doesn't she want to? You don't want her to look like a missing bridesmaid, but she shouldn't stick out like a sore thumb either.

Regardless, at the end of the day, she won't be very many pics anyway.

Crystal - this might be a cultural/regional thing. I'm actually surprised that so many people are saying that their moms chose their colors. In my network of friends/family members, the bride typically gives a specific color for both mothers to wear. My mom, and everyone else, has been surprised that I am not providing a specific color.

Ultimately, it might not be a battle worth fighting. If she's okay not blending in with the family photo, I guess it's up to her. You can always make sure she's not next to your sister, right?

I told my mom and FMIL, no white or off white and not the colors of the bridal party - that was the only restriction I gave. I think your mom should respect your wishes. That being said, I think the colors you mention would go fine together

Most mothers wear one of the wedding colors. At least at the weddings I have been to. Black is one of my wedding colors and both my mom and my aunt are wearing black. I think it makes sense for her to wear something that compliments the wedding colors.

Personally, I let the moms have free reign. I didn't pick a color scheme, but stayed with a neutral color palate using pastel colors. FMIL chose a long dark purple dress, and my mom and step-mom both chose long champagne colored dresses. I didn't really care what they wore, but if you do, just tell her it's your wedding and you'd prefer this or that. Hopefully she'll be receptive.

I'm telling the moms NOT to wear anything similar to my wedding colors. I don't want them to look like part of our wedding party. Our colors are blush and coral so they'll be in blues, purples or greens

I let my mom and FMIL decide. Of course they asked for my opinion, but I would definitely not have be offended if they went shopping on their own. My stepmom sent me a picture of a dress she likes, and I told her that it was VERY similar to my mom's, She can do with that information as she likes.

I think traditionally the moms are supposed to compliment the wedding colors and the MoG picks her dress after the MoB so they coordinate. This is just what I've heard, not what I'm doing. The moms can pick whatever, but I did ask that their dresses will at least somewhat coordinate with our colors for pictures.

My mom and fmil let me choose the color they wore so what I did was I went shopping with my mom but told her what color she needed and let her pick, then the grooms mother should compliment her so they decided on floor length and I decided on a dark blue "navy" to go with my light pink and grey/silver color scheme. I also think dark blue would work well for you, also they can always do a lighter or darker shade of red or silver that you are using.

I know my mom is an adult and should be able to pick out what she wants, but the first dress she picked out was a bright yellow, short slightly slutty dress. My mom doesn't always know what's appropriate and needs some guidance. She doesn't want to wear anything "matronly", which is fine. I've suggested pink, champagne, dark silver, and navy for colors, she says she can't find a dress in those colors only purple. My sister is more adamant and "helping" her pick out a dress than me only because she wants to be able to pick out her exact color and dress.

If you like the dress she picked out, and she likes the dress even though it's eggplant colored, why not let her wear it? She will be happier and you will come off as easy-going and thoughtful. The mothers and bridesmaids are not to serve as props to support your theme. Happier mothers = happier brides. That is the overarching theme here on WW.