Mixed gender bridal party gifts

I'm always partial to food. Honestly, personalized gifts are nice, but they more often than not become closet filler. Chocolates, cookies, tea/coffee, jam etc; basically anything one can consume; they gifts can be geared towards each person's tastes.

I also suggest cookies or even candy. Idk if you are one to like to bake. If not candy or chocolates depending on their preference/allergies. Or even homemade gifts. Those are always the best

For our wedding, I had four bridesmaids and one bride's man and my husband had four groomsmen and one groomswoman. The groomswoman got the same gifts as the bridesmaids and the bride's man got the same gift as the groomsmen. Our gifts to the bridesmaids/groomswoman were robes with their names on them and a wine glass filled with each of their favorite candy. The groomsmen/bride's man got a mug that looked like a baseball bat. I filled the bride's man with his favorite candy, but my husband didn't put any candy or anything in the groomsmens' mugs. I also bought the bride's man a special shirt that said something like I never thought I would be a bride's man, but here I am killing it. He loved it. We choose to give the groomswoman a wine glass over the baseball mug because she isn't into baseball, but she loves wine. We also choose to give the bride's man the baseball mug instead of the wine glass because he doesn't drink so he wouldn't have wanted a wine glass whereas a mug isn't specifically designed to drink alcohol out of like a wine glass.

My brother was my bridesman. I got my girls jewelry with theirs and their kids’ birthstones and a jewelry dish, and I got my brother a personalized gym bag and flask and bottle opener. He’s into alcohol and working out so it worked for him.

View Quoted Comment Wow i hasn’t even thought of food as a gift, this is a great idea! I think all of my bridal party love tea, I’ve also been making my own jams lately so that could work - but it’s a destination wedding so might not work with customs. Would they feel like this is kinda cheap tho after having purchase their own attire and travel?

I had one male bridal party member and 4 female bridal party members and whatever i got for the girls i would try to find a substitute for him. for instance i got the girls a necklace with a knot design and so i got him cufflinks with a knot design instead.

The purpose of bridal party gifts is to thank them for participating in your wedding. I personally think that a gift that pertains to their hobbies or interests is a much better “thank you” than the same generic gift for everyone. We also had mixed genders on both sides of our bridal party and we shopped for them like we would for their birthdays or Christmas. My best friend is a tattoo artist and does a lot of drawing, so I got her a personalized leather bound sketch book. My other bridesman loves whiskey, so he got personalized whiskey glasses, etc.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing!! My FH has a girl and five guys on his side too, so it would definitely be cool to coordinate.

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You're welcome! I think the bridesmaids, groomswoman, and bride's man loved the candy the most. I had offered to get the groomsmen their favorite candy to fill their mugs like I did for my bride's man, but my husband didn't think it was necessary. I'm sure they would have disagreed lol

View Quoted Comment This sounds really fun! You could make them like “tea time” baskets. Maybe pick out a tea variety you think theyd like and then include your jams and cookies etc. Maybe you could give them this before or after traveling. I had three BMs and a man of honor and got them roughly the same thing. I got them PJs to get ready in (my male friend got PJ shorts), necklace with their birth stone (male friend got earrings), a wine from somewhere significant to them (where one friend studied abroad, where one was moving etc) and a cute wine stopper. I think it was a good mix of stuff that was personal beyond having their name on it.

View Quoted Comment I totally get you about it being to thank them. I think it would be nice to get something matching because it symbolizes that we are all friends and creates a memory, but I definitely want to make sure the gift is something each person would appreciate, not forced upon them. I guess I should focus more on our shared interests like hiking/camping/travel

I have a man of honor, two bridesmaids, and three groomsmen. I also had been struggling with this same dilemma until my aunt came up with a great idea that I know will work for everyone! She is making little travel leather zip up bags that will have each person’s name on the inside fabric and we are putting together wedding survival kits. Will include things like tissues, tic tacs, etc. The inside fabric of the bag will reflect the personality of the person rather than by guy or girl (and is good for gender neutral friends too!)

View Quoted Comment I love this idea!! Sounds like a super fun diy. Maybe I can combine with some of the other awesome suggestions and put some select tea and candy inside

Thanks for sharing all your great ideas!! Much appreciated

We also had mixed gender parties. Both DH and I chose gifts as if we were getting them a birthday or holiday present. The gifts had nothing to do with the wedding.

DH got his groomswomen jewelry that reflected their personal style, and cufflinks for his groomsmen that represented their relationship with him.

Since two of my BMs were married to each other, I got them matching necklaces in a shared passion, and paired them with a notebook and a card case, respectively, again, both reflected the person. My MOH, I found artwork of her favorite movie franchise, and framed it. For my groomsman, since he was also the choreographer of our reception swordfight, DH and I found a Damascus steel dagger for his collection.

TL;dr: don't make it wedding related, make it your-relationship-with-them related.