Mixed Emotions

Sorry to hear that! Is it because of covid?? Are they out of town??

I know the feeling. We just got word that FH's dad isn't coming. Not due to covid... but rather spending a couple months with FH's grandpa...FH is quite upset by it. FH's mother passed away a few years ago so he's, understandably, upset that he won't have his parents at the wedding.


This wedding planning nonsense lost all enjoyment after the arrival of the dreaded covid. Keep your head up! Your day will be fabulous! Good luck.

View Quoted Comment Yeah a lot of our family will be traveling to get here but most are choosing to drive so they don’t have to be in a confined space on a plane but they’re in Seattle so driving would take a few days

View Quoted Comment Thanks so much! I wish the best for you guys too!

View Quoted Comment Hmm....maybe if it's possible, you and your FH can elope with both sets of parents that way you can still have them there with you??

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately it’s not an option at this point, our venue is completely paid for and being less than 60 days out we would lose all that money and we just can’t afford that. We just have to keep our fingers crossed that everyone does their part to stop the spread

View Quoted Comment Makes sense but I meant like a little ceremony with you guys and still have your big event but with only 60 days, I guess that would still be a bit tough. Really sorry to hear that it won't work out.

My husband only had his mom and best man at our wedding (pre covid). All his other friends and family declined. It was very painful but there’s nothing to do but accept it and be happy with those who do come.

View Quoted Comment You’re absolutely right, my FH is amazing because at the end of the day he says all that matters is that I’m there and I lost it because there’s so many emotions and he’s right

I understand that.
Covid has really taken a lot of the fun and joy out of planning a wedding.
My bridesmaids just asked/informed me yesterday that they are going to do a virtual bridal shower (which I honestly don’t think is going to be well attended and is going to come across as gift grabby) and despite me saying we didn’t have to have a shower or a bachelorette party, they seem overly compelled to have them. My uncle is severely immune compromised and won’t be able to attend, which means my aunt, 2 cousins and their significant others probably won’t come to keep my uncle safe (my cousins still live at home). My moh has told me that her hubby won’t be coming due to the cost of flying and if the cases don’t decrease, she might not be in attendance.
Yay covid 😭

View Quoted Comment I’m so sorry you’re having to go through all that, it’s so hard to just get to be excited about the wedding

View Quoted Comment Right?
I’ve been waiting to be in the receiving end of a guilt trip for still planning and going ahead with our wedding.
Hopefully everything works out for both of us. I think we’re going to have a virtual option for anyone who couldn’t come due to covid. I have to talk to the FH about that, but I’ve got time. We’re 118 days out.

View Quoted Comment Hopefully in 118 days we can have things under control. The CDC says if everyone wore masks for 4-8 weeks we’ll have it under control