Hello! It would mean the world for you to read through this even though I know it’s a bit lengthy. Especially if you were a bride who has/had experienced mixed emotions about a dress. I’m in a weird place with my dress finding process and I was hoping to get some of my fellow brides’ advice/experience. So I went dress shopping with a couple of my bridesmaids with no intention of finding the “one” but just wanted some of the girls to experience it with me while I was figuring out what I did and didn’t like. After visiting my first shop (by myself) I was convinced I wanted at fit and flare/trumpet style dress because I felt they flattered my figure very well! I usually hide my curves so I was excited to find a dress that would make me feel stunning for the wedding day. I was also open to options as I was just starting but still was searching for that more fitted style. Well this time around with my bridesmaids I tried on a modified ball gown dress with floral lace and thought it was beautiful but just didn’t have the fit I was hoping for and ready to move on to the next. I tried it on a second time later in the appointment and out of no where, I cried. I was over whelmed with emotions and although I didn’t feel certain it was my dress my emotions seemed to tell me it was. I didn’t by it quite yet and still worry that I’d regret not going fitted but I thought for sure that I’d cry when I found the one and I did! So now I’m confused! I need advice! Do I stop shopping even with a twinge of doubt or do I go with this one because it truly is beautiful and I clearly have some emotion towards it?
I found the one after the 3rd dress. I even cried. I knew if I tried in any dress, I wouldn't love it. And I didn't. I tried on a total of 10 dresses and all I can think of was that dress. I bought another one but never stopped thinking about that dress. Well I went back and bought it. I cried again. Wish I wouldve bought it the first time. Hope my story helps.
So when I went and tried on dresses, I found one that I absolutely loved at a consignment shop. But I had an appointment at David's that I still wanted to go to. While we were trying dresses on there, the second or third one made me cry. It was beautiful, but I couldn't see myself going home with it even though I cried in it. I was about ready to quit when my sister got them to bring out the last gown, which is the one I ended buying. I cried less in my actual dress (though I still did a little), but overall it was just the giddy feeling it gave me because it was just so beautiful. I knew it was it. So you can definitely have emotions over multiple dresses, and if you're unsure, I'd say keep trying on different dresses. It might show you that the ballgown really is the dress, or you might find something you like even better! Good luck- no matter what you will find something beautiful!
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Thank you!! It feels so good to hear that someone has emotions over multiple dresses! It also makes me feel more confident in my decision to keep my bridal appointment at a different shop. Thank you for sharing your story with me
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Thank you yes! I do have an appointment to try this particular dress on again so I’m hoping that it will help me distinguish my feelings. I like that you couldn’t stop thinking of your dress after the fact. I think that’s a great sign it’s the one! I appreciate you sharing with me
I didn’t have any happy tears like that during my appointment, but the most distinctive feeling for me was I could visualize myself getting married to my husband in that dress. I bought a dress that was not at all what I originally thought I wanted. I thought I wanted a ball gown with sleeves. I specifically told the consultant I didn’t want a deep v neckline. I bought a sleeveless a-line dress with a deep plunge. I also decided a didn’t want a veil. From reading the forums, I think a lot of brides buy a dress that’s different from what they originally had in mind. It’s definitely a big decision, but once I tried on my dress everything started to come into focus. I could see myself walking down the aisle to my husband. I tried on other pretty dresses, but I didn’t feel that way in any of the others.
I originally had a particular dress in mind but when I tried it on, it wasn’t “me”. I tried on a few others but I think the 3rd dress I tried on was what I ended up buying! (I tried on a total of 5 dresses) I could just see myself getting married in that dress; I did tear up a little too! IMO, if it feels right, it’s right. I didn’t want to confuse myself by trying on hundreds of dresses so I stopped shortly after when I felt I found “the one” so I can’t speak on loving multiple dresses. I think if you see yourself and FH while wearing the dress, you’ve found the one!!
If you’re still having doubt, I say keep trying on other dresses. If you’re still thinking about that dress, maybe try it on again in a different store. I cried for three different dresses, lol. The first cry was because I felt bridal. The second one, I realized my cousin bought the same exact dress so immediately shut that down and the last cry was for “the one”. It gave me the feels. I tried the first dress I cried for again before I found the one and didn’t get the same feels. Good luck! Keep us posted.
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