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Just Said Yes August 2018

Mistress of Ceremonies Has Cancer...

Jema, on August 9, 2017 at 6:18 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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First time posting here, but needed some advice as I don't have many people I am comfortable discussing all of this with in person...

I had planned on asking my aunt, godmother & one of my best friends to be my Mistress of Ceremony (getting married August 2018) however she has recently started chemo / treatment for breast cancer after having a double mastectomy... I don't want to overwhelm her with the thought of having these "duties" in the relatively near future and am obviously praying for her to get through this in general, but at the same time, she means the world to me and I know being a part of this would mean the world to her... Do I just hold off on asking her? Or try to select someone else? Advice, suggestions, etc would be greatly appreciated.

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Latest activity by Joanne, on August 17, 2017 at 12:58 AM
  • Rachel
    Super May 2018
    Rachel ·
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    I think you should still ask her, but do it in such a way that she has the option to decline gracefully.

    ETA: And maybe also have a back-up ready in case she needs to step down later, falls more ill, or any other variety of issues happens

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    I've never actually heard of someone having a MOC, nor do I know what 'duties" you'd be handing her.

    There is no reason to ask anyone to play a role this early. Let her recover, hold off and see what happens.

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  • Kayla
    Super November 2017
    Kayla ·
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    I would wait until she is done with chemo. You still have plenty of time still before your wedding.

    I have never heard of mistress of ceremony. What is it?

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    Wait until a couple months before your wedding to figure that out.

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  • Malei
    Super October 2018
    Malei ·
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    Are you talking about an MC? Like, as opposed to Master of Ceremonies?

    I would suggest waiting until closer to the date but not so close that she doesn't have time to prepare for the itinerary and whatnot. You might also want to gauge her condition to see if she has the energy to do that.

    Is it possible to do dual MCs? Someone who means that much to you that she's comfortable with? that way she can still be a part of it, even if that just means her standing up there... assuming she would be comfortable in the spotlight at that point after/during treatment.

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  • WinterMarie
    Super November 2018
    WinterMarie ·
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    What is a mistress of ceremonies? I've never heard of this?

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  • K
    Dedicated August 2017
    Kate ·
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    Never heard of this but would this be something that she would really look forward to and "motivate" her? I don't mean that in a negative way... my father passed from cancer when my sister and I were in high school and it was the mini milestones that kept him going and his spirits up. things like prom, softball games, graduation etc... maybe mentioning this to her would give her something to really look forward to as she finishes chemo

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  • J
    Dedicated November 2007
    Joanne ·
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    I'd choose somebody else. chemo is brutal.

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