Missing bridesmaid

That is kinda weird! Something may be up with her. Idk. I mean if she doesn't show up, she doesn't show up. You've done what you can to reach out

Could you go to her home to visit her? Considering your wedding is coming up ASAP, you should get a hold of her sooner than later.

I could but she lives 45 mins away. I just tried messagit her again on Facebook and it said she was on 1hr ago.

This seems like something beyond wedding problems. as a friend i'd probably message/text her saying that you two need to "talk" because you're worried about her. once you can get ahold of her and confirm that she's okay you can bring up wedding talk again.

Do you think more is going on health wise and she does not want to tell anyone?

View Quoted Comment I’ve message her countless of time asking how she was and if she was feeling better nothing wedding related and nothing. Would it be crossing the line to message her husband?

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Personally i would, but proceed with caution at his point. i know my friends wouldn't be offended or think i was crossing a line but you know your friend better than i do

View Quoted Comment It seems like she may be going through a hard time a 45 min drive is nothing to check on a friend. Even if it is only to leave a note and flowers or something on her doorstep to let her know you care and are concerned. Good luck

View Quoted Comment I agree. 45- min drive is not bad. I would have made that trip a month or 2 after she started going MIA. It's in both sides' interest to get this sorted out early.

Sometimes when someone is seriously ill, seems better, then drops out of touch, it is either a depressive reaction to what happened, which may private and hard to talk about . Or else in all the medical testing that went on, they turned up something unrelated but serious. An example from my life, last year a close friend dropped off the map. Turned out after 3 months, she had had an ectopic pregnancy that ruptured, cause of hospitalization. But when better, contact made, she then got word, in follow-up exams to make sure she had no infection, they found leukemia. That set a depression, with one fallopian tube destroyed, and that their first conceived child in years of trying, added to having even a treatable form if leukemia. Bad mental state, lost leadership position in company that was performance oriented, bills problems and cell/ smartphones disconnected a month, their only internet. And husband, like wife, evasive about talking. Stunned. So maybe a personal visit is in order, or just wait. A shower may not be high on her list of things for some good reason. Be a good friend first, then a bride. Sometimes communication shut off seems a slap in the face, but not meant to be. You said she was not on Facebook, but is just back to posting. She might just be surfacing with idle chat, working on catching up.

Ur wedding is no concern at this point. If this is ur friend how could u go this long without actually going to her home and making sure she is ok? Were u supportive while she was ill? It sounds like u weren't, ur information came through word of mouth. 45minutes away? Is she not worth the drive? U r only concerned about her now because ur wedding is close?

View Quoted Comment I’ve been concerned since I found out she was in the hospital and that was the last time we spoke. I didn’t want to bug her all the time as she was recovering so I didn’t get in touch till a month after again I asked how she was doing and feeling nothing wedding related. Just her well being. And got nothing in response

I totally understand how all this stuff can easily get distracting, you’re planning, her health, both your day to day business of living, and then sometimes you don’t realize the time that has passed. However, if good friends and you want to do what you can to make things right (it for some reason, she’s upset with you, or just because you feel you need too), I would reach out to her, and her husband if you feel comfortable. Wait a day or 2, and then yes I would find the time to stop by her house (and where I live, a 45 minute drive can easily turn into an hour and half-2 hours, and then going home), and maybe you can couple that drive with something else, like dinner out or something to make it worth your while. If you feel comfortable, maybe bring FH along as well. If at this point, she’s starting to avoid you, you may have to make a decision....I just had to, I did it yesterday, didn’t feel good, but it was something that had to be done. Best of luck with it all.

View Quoted Comment Ur friend, bridesmaid was in the hospital and u didnt see about her for a month but u dont know why shes not responding to u? Well let me say my MOHs adult daughter just got out the hospital today. Had been in for a week. The day she went in, i was up there. Have spoken to my BFF everyday sometimes more than once. I have still continued with my wedding preparations as im in the process of DIY bouquets and centerpieces. Showing concern for my friend never stopped me from doing what I need to.