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Michelle
Super October 2020

Minister marrying a non-religious couple?

Michelle, on December 16, 2019 at 1:29 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 7

What are your thoughts on a non-denominational minister that belongs to a Christian church marrying a non-religious couple? Fiance's family is Buddhist, my family is Catholic but my dad is Buddhist...though we both don't belong to any religion. We're more so agnostic but lean more toward the spiritual side of things.

Many officiants I've searched ranged from $200-$500! I have a family friend whose friend's husband is a non-denominational minister and would only be charging us $75. I asked if it was a problem regarding our background not being tied to any church or religious group, that I wanted something more spiritual rather than a specific religious ceremony and they said it wasn't a problem.

I've yet to meet him, but I will get the specifics after holidays to see if he's a good fit with us. It's a bit odd because I've been in communication with my friend's friend (the wife) rather than her husband. I searched him on Facebook and his profile is all about God and videos of preaching so he's for sure a minister not just some person. I don't have a problem with a minister marrying us but I'm just afraid of it sounding like a Christian ceremony and preaching to a crowd where most of them are Buddhist lol.

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Latest activity by Alyssa, on December 16, 2019 at 3:34 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    I say that is at his discretion. If he is willing to then go for it.

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  • N
    Master January 2015
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    I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long as he's comfortable doing it. A lot of officiants are willing to perform religious ceremonies, non-religious ceremonies, and everything in between. I would just let him know what you do and don't want to be included in the ceremony. We're writing out our entire ceremony for our officiant and he'll literally just say what we've asked him to say. If he doesn't feel comfortable performing the ceremony without involving his faith, it may be best to find another option.

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  • N
    VIP September 2020
    Neeva ·
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    We made it very clear we wanted something non-denominational and our officiant had different options set up for us to choose from, so we chose one that was more spiritual. With any vendor, be as specific as possible and see if they can't accommodate you!

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  • Michelle
    Super October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    Okay, thank you! Yes, I'm worried it'll just sound like a Christian preach so I'll try to have as much detail as possible. I'm okay with the mention of God once or twice but not the whole time, referring to the bible, etc. I'll try to be upfront about it all too.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    My FH and I are being married by a minister that is the minister of the church I went to when I was younger. My grandpa still goes there and arranged for us to meet up with him. My FH and I are both not religious by any means, but because I was confirmed in the church the minister okay-ed it.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I don’t see the issue as long as all 3 of you are comfortable.
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  • Alyssa
    Dedicated August 2021
    Alyssa ·
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    I'm not religious but wanted to get married in this non denominational chapel where I live called the Seamans Bethel...its the chapel from the book Moby Dick. They have several ministers to choose from and have some who do not mind not bringing up god/religion in the ceremony. I would just meet with him and see what kind of vows he will be saying and see if you like it.
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