Minimony thoughts?

I’m right there with you. We rescheduled our May 24, 2020 wedding to August 7, 2020 in St. Louis but I’m almost certain we may have to reschedule for next summer. We invited 160 guest and are expecting 125. We already decided we will get married on Aug 7 this year no matter what but I’m afraid next year if we have the vowel renewal and reception it won’t be as exciting. This COVID-19 suckssss!!! Good Luck! ❤️❤️❤️

View Quoted Comment It’s so hard !!! I’m so sorry to hear you may have to postpone again 😭 I thought I would be in the clear for a June wedding but the closer it got the higher my blood pressure went haha. If we do get married this year I’m not going to wear my dress because I still want to save that for next year.
Good luck with everything too!!

My fiancé and I are likely in the same boat! I was expressing some of the same fears about a second wedding feeling less meaningful to a friend. She simply told me that it will only feel weird if I make it weird. It’s not ideal, but I think you deserve to get married this year and to have a big celebration when the world is safer! I know it’s not what you planned or what you wanted (trust me, I definitely feel you) but I think both days can and will be really special.

I have been really debating this too. I don't think anyone else would think twice about having a mini ceremony now and the big party later. I worry that if we do that our priorities might change between now and the big party day (e.g., wanting to have kids, who knows what the financial situation will be a year from now with the potential recession). I worry that if we do the mini ceremony now I might be less motivated to do the big blowout later... and I really have imagined the big party.

We plan to do this. We had our mini ceremony on our original date. We pushed back the ceremony and reception 7 months.
So far, everybody is pumped.

We’re getting married this year with just parents and a vow renewal next year on the same date. Trying to make it fair since a lot of my immediate family live abroad and won’t be able to attend. It does feel weird but at the same time 1. I don’t want to wait a whole year to be officially married since we’ve been engaged for 4 years and 2. It will give us more time to save more.

View Quoted Comment Agree, we're doing this as well. Married next week and the "big bang" in 5 months. Everyone is super excited

We aren't scheduled to get married until Nov (6 months tomorrow), but given how everything is going so far and with the talk of a second surge in the fall, I am less optimistic than many. Additionally, my fiance and I live in different states so if things shut down again we won't be able to scramble and do a last minute civil ceremony because of travel restrictions. We have, therefore, started talking about doing a small courthouse wedding late summer/early fall with immediate family (if they can even travel to us) as our back up plan even though we hope to have our big wedding a couple of months later. So our plan B will happen before our plan A. But if we have this in place I will be less nervous about having to reschedule, we will push the big wedding to next year, and I figure I will get two styles of wedding!

I'm also worried about it taking away the reason behind the "big day"! Our 8/16 wedding has been postponed and we aren't even able to pick a new date until mid-September. We've been together for 8 years already, so we plan to still get legally married with just our officiant on 8/16 - I won't be wearing the dress, no one will be there other than a photographer, we will save our vows, etc. and just go on a little minimoon! All the excitement that's built up over the last year, we didn't want it to all amount to nothing, so we decided to still get married and save the beautiful ceremony/reception once it's safe to do so. To me, not doing all those little "special" wedding things for the minimony, is what's going to keep the postponed wedding still special and it's like the best of both worlds. My mom's super negative about it (she's actually been super negative throughout the whole wedding process), she thinks it takes away from the actual wedding... which I understand, but her wedding wasn't canceled due to worldwide pandemic, so her opinion doesn't really matter to me.

We’re also doing this! A mini ceremony now with wedding party and immediate family, big party when it’s safe to have it. I felt weird about it at first, and was worried about it taking away from the day. But now I’ve reframed it- going to make the mini ceremony as special as possible and the celebration/second ceremony just as special! We’re wearing our original outfits (dress/suit) and all. Not to be too dark, but a part of me feels like “If something happened to me, I’d want to have married this person and worn this dress."
I’m trying to figure out how to best honor my original bridesmaids (do they stand near me? That only leaves 4 people sitting down.)
We’ve also talked about hiring a videographer and showing that at the big party later instead of re-doing the ceremony. I’m not sure yet.

I’m sorry everyone is going through this! What are the odds we’d be wedding planning during a pandemic? Hoping everyone stays safe, gets to marry their sweetheart, and celebrates big when possible❤️