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Minimony Questions

Taylor, on February 25, 2021 at 7:43 PM Posted in Planning 0 13

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Fiance and I had originally planned on a “normal” wedding with around 80 guests and using a rather large venue. After the stresses we have perpetually ran into with our families, and just wedding planning in general, we have been discussing a minimony instead. Our plan is to invite our immediate families only, plus a couple of our best friends as our bridesmaids and groomsmen. There would be about 48 people in total. I have some questions for those who have had a minimony or who are planning on having one.

1) Is it still considered a minimony with our guest count? I need to know cause I expect push back from our families, they want us to have a bigger wedding. But if I can explain the concept of a minimony then maybe they’ll get it.
2) Is it generally the same as a normal wedding, just smaller? Like playing music down the aisle and cute decor?
3) Since it’s more informal, is it ok to have laid back food like sandwiches and finger foods?
I feel like we would be so much happier with a minimony than a big wedding. Planning has been so stressful - I’m not even looking forward to our original wedding plans. I think a minimony is for us

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Latest activity by Eri, on February 26, 2021 at 5:58 PM

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Anais · on February 25, 2021 at 7:53 PM
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Personally, I’d consider that guest county to be a microwedding/small wedding.
A minimony I believe is the term for a small ceremony only and not a whole wedding.
A micro wedding is with the decor, the reception etc just like a wedding but smaller. I think as long as your guests know what type of wedding to expect, and that the venue is just as casual as sandwiches it’s completely fine! And that you’re feeding them enough obviously. You can totally do something laid back!
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Melanie · on February 25, 2021 at 8:08 PM
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Agree with PP. A minimony is normally only a ceremony for 10, maybe 20 people max. Under 50 would be a microwedding. By definition, it's not necessarily more informal than a normal wedding, but you're free to serve whatever food you want and your wedding. Explanation of the difference between the two is below!
https://www.theknot.com/content/what-is-a-microwedding
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Savvy October 2021
Taylor · on February 25, 2021 at 8:34 PM
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Thank you for clearing that up! And thank you for the link 😊
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Taylor · on February 25, 2021 at 8:35 PM
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I see what you mean. Thank you!
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Yasmine · on February 25, 2021 at 9:47 PM
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My husband and I had a minimony in October. We had 35 guests and the timeline was just like a bigger wedding but without our bridal party (we're using them for our big wedding). My dad walked me down the aisle and my husband and I had our first dance. We didn't do a bouquet or garter toss but it was set up as a normal weekend.

For food, my family cooked for everyone. We had fried chicken, baked chicken, meatballs, Mac & cheese, green beans, dirty rice, deviled eggs etc basically soul food.
My husband and I are still having our bigger wedding hopefully in October, but the minimony was amazing ❤️
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Shirley · on February 25, 2021 at 9:59 PM
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My minimony was immediate family meaning parents and siblings, and MOH and BM. Ended up being 13 people.

I think 48 is not a big wedding, but still a decent enough size. Why do you want to cut out the other 30 invites?
In general, I think you can bring the entire event down a notch in terms of stress. You can have it be more casual, even have it at a non-meal time with just finger foods and cake. Skip the DJ, skip the set tables, etc. Shorten the event time, skip any of the formalities you don't want to do, and ride off into the sunset. Just make sure to adjust your expectations of the guests accordingly.
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Mrs. Spring · on February 25, 2021 at 10:22 PM
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A minimony should be less than 20 guests.
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Michelle · on February 25, 2021 at 10:33 PM
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A minimony/microwedding is 2-20 guests max. 50+/- is an average size guest count.
Music and decor would be the same regardless of guest count.
You can serve anything you want to eat, regardless of guest count, as long as it's appropriate for the time of day. Sandwiches/finger foods is good for lunchtime.
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Sara · on February 25, 2021 at 10:48 PM
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That doesn't really sound like a minimony to me, just sounds like a normal wedding since 50 people is a very normal number for a wedding. I'd think a minimony would be 10 people or less, and a microwedding would be 30 or less. You can certainly have a laid back style wedding with sandwiches and finger foods for 48 guests. That doesn't make it a minimony--just makes it an informal wedding for 48 guests. Sounds perfect for a laid back afternoon wedding!
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Lady · on February 26, 2021 at 9:50 AM
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I don't think there's anything "mini" about a 50 person wedding. You can have whatever food you want with any number of guests (if you want sandwiches and finger foods with 80 ppl, that's totally fine!).
I guess i'm not sure what you're really gaining with cutting 30 people because you can do all the same things! If you just want fewer people that's one thing, but if you just feel like it would be more laid back and casual, you can do that with 80 people too.
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Hanna · on February 26, 2021 at 11:21 AM
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I agree with this completely. A 50 person wedding isn't "mini" but I don't really understand why that matters? You can have an informal wedding with sandwiches and finger foods for 80 guests, so why would you need to cut the 30 other guests? A minimony would be 15 people or less. It sounds like you want to have a normal sized wedding with a more casual laid back vibe, which is absolutely fine! I'd just do that
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Connie · on February 26, 2021 at 11:43 AM
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I don't believe there is a proper or strict definition yet for those terms since they are so new. Personally, I thought a minimony was just basically an elopement with more witnesses than normal and typically no reception. I thought a micro wedding was <50 guests but with an actual reception. Idk. Lavels aside, I think you should do what you want and keep your wedding the size you want. I love the idea of just closest friends and family and a more casual reception. You don't have to give an explanation if you get pushback. It is your wedding, not theirs.
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Eri · on February 26, 2021 at 5:58 PM
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Definitions aside, your 50-person gathering can be whatever you want it to be.

We downsized from 120 to 35 guests and I just called it a small wedding. I joke with people that we probably hold some kind of record for the most expensive small wedding ever because we kept everything (venue, flowers, decor, dress, wedding party, fancy dinner, cake, etc.) except the DJ.
You can make it as formal or informal as you like, and serve more casual foods if that’s more your thing! Just make sure your guests know what to expect and how to dress.
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