Minimony - Name Change and Other Questions

We are also having a minimony this October and moved our sequel wedding to October 2021! I can't speak to the name change, as I was already on the fence about it pre-COVID. I am definitely going to wear my dress to both weddings (assuming alterations are done in time - my dress has arrived late due to COVID). You pay so much for a wedding gown to only wear it once, you might as well wear it to both weddings! Plus wearing mine made me feel so beautiful that I would want to wear it twice. I will just do different hairstyles for the different days, so the FH is wowed each time. We are also going to do a church ceremony for both the minimony and sequel, it was important for FH to get married in a church, and we will do the same ceremony next year at the big one so that it will be more like the tradition of bringing the two families together, assuming everyone can attend.

I am changing my name for the minimony, it just seemed easier that way. I bought a cheaper, more casual dress for the minimony and will be saving my other one for the postponed ceremony. We will still be having a full on ceremony for our "big" wedding, because our minimony will be nothing like we planned and won't have our family there.

I’m wearing a white blouse and jeans to the minimony wasn’t too thrilled about wearing a dress to begin with but I’m wearing one for the wedding next year. I am changing my name now because it will make switching over so much insurance and we are planning on buying a house, so might as well change it now. We are still doing a full ceremony at the big wedding because we want everyone to be able to see it who won’t be able to come to our little ceremony.

The local social security office is closed because of covid, and my name change is mildly complicated, so I'm going to deal with that when I can go in person. (It's not that hard, but it took city hall 3 tries to get my name on our marriage license right, so I don't want to do this by mail.)

I am going to wear my dress to the miniwedding, and I'll probably also wear it to the big future reception.

I don't think we'll do a ceremony at the sequel wedding, but we haven't ruled it out completely. I don't want to do a vow renewal or reenactment, so it probably won't happen since I have no idea what would happen during it.

Have you made any decisions about what you'll do in regards to your questions?

Our original date was November 2020 but we have postponed to November 2021. We are planning to still get married this year, but we are not 100% sure what that is going to look like. I think we are still going to do a full ceremony at the postponed date, since this year it will likely be a simpler one (still not sure how that all really works though). I’m undecided on when to change my name, but it seems easier to just do it after the minimony. As for my dress, I keep going back and forth. I’m leaning towards finding a simpler dress for this year and saving my other dress for the postponed date. But there’s a part of me that wants to wear the big dress twice since it’s what I pictured getting married in.

I'm going to change my name after the minimony (love that word!), because it is a legal ceremony. I will probably wear a different dress, since my dress hasn't been fitted to me yet. Plus, I want everyone to see me in it at the same time! Whatever day we can have the big ceremony and reception, I'd love to do the ceremony again even though we're already going to be married. We have a cruise booked for December 19, 2020 as our honeymoon (I'm a teacher, can't take more time off), God willing. I have not made contingency plans for that yet.

I am going to change my name after the minimony after we get back from our honeymoon. I am going to find another cheaper dress for the minimony and wear my original dress for our big wedding next year.
We are going to essentially do a “do over” for the big day next year.

Thanks for asking this question! We're in the middle of postponing and I hadn't even thought about when I'll change my name. Probably after the minimony since, like someone mentioned, it will be official/legal at that point.

I plan on getting a simpler dress for the minimony and saving the big ballgown for the big event.

We're trying to figure out our ceremony piece. I would love to have a 2nd ceremony for a postponed date so that everyone can be involved. We're getting married in the Catholic church, though, so I'm not sure how what will work. Does anyone have experience with that piece?

We decided to have a minimony in April (on our 5 year dating anniversary) then have our big wedding in October. I’m changing my name after the minimony & I’d like to wear a jumpsuit first then my big dress for the big wedding. I think we’ll go to City Hall or have a backyard ceremony/small reception. I’m excited about both🥰