Mimosa Bridal Shower and going back on Invitations

Something to always keep in mind is that the event is about you. It doesn't matter what your Mom says ultimately. If YOU want the kids there, then do it. I've been to several wedding showers where kids were invited and it was no problem! To be honest, I've always been the kind of person who finds it weird/rude to have a no-kids policy at events. But AGAIN, the decision is up to YOU and what you want. Silence the other voices for a bit. Maybe take a shower and make up your mind in there-- that's what I do.

Have any of the moms RSVP'd yes with their kids? Are the kids invited to the wedding? If not, then now is the time to retract the invite, if yes, that makes it a little more difficult to break the news but it wouldn't be the worst to un-invite the kids, and the moms should be understanding that there was miscommunication in the guest list. A bridal shower usually has activities younger kids wouldn't find fun, so they may not even be planning to bring them regardless. I would ask the mom you are closest to to explain the situation and get her opinion. If the girls are close, it's likely if one mom was planning to leave then the rest will probably copy since their kids may not have as much fun without other kids to play with.

But if you did want to have them, you could offer to pay for a sitter for all the kids so that they can still attend, but be out of sight so that the brunch is still what your mom envisions. If the budget and location allows, you could also look into a sitter who can take them to a nearby park or something and offer to pay for sandwiches or something easy and inexpensive.

Well, since mom is the host , it isn’t precisely all about you and is ultimately her call. However it is rude to rescind an invite, so before doing that, I’d start by pushing back on mom and her no children thing , and try to get her to accommodate them since they’ve already been invited. Is there a reason she is saying no? Are they also invited to the wedding? Is it a venue thing or a concern with mimosas (because I wouldn’t worry about that at all— it’s reasonable to assume that the moms know a shower is likely to have alcohol and they can make the decision on their own to not bring their kids if they don’t want them around that, but also, kids go to events with alcohol all the time with no issue) … point being id figure out why she is saying no and work with her to find a solution to be able to accommodate them too.

Is her concern that alcohol is being served, as to why she doesn't want the kids included? If so, could a kiddie version of a mimosa be served for them? Such as, sparkling grape juice and orange juice? Non-alcoholic, and the kids can still feel included, and you don't have to uninvite them?

Kids like orange juice. Just don't add any alcohol to theirs. (Captain Obvious to the rescue!)

To rescind an invite is rude, even if there was a misunderstanding. Flat out asking them to get childcare is even more inappropriate considering it's way easier said than done. If your mom is not budging on the no kid rule, you need to call the moms and explain that it was a mix up and if they can no longer attend you will understand.