Military Wedding help..

I asked my FH the etiquette on this because he is in the military and he said you dont have to invite his commander and everyone he works with. If he is close to a few people from his unit and you want to invite them by all means do it. Otherwise the short answer is no. Its like working at a regular job. You wouldnt ask his boss to attend your wedding if you two didnt know his boss that well.

Is your wedding really in 5 months? If so then I would think you would know by now if you are having 50 guests vs 300 guests!

Great thanks. I have talked a few times to his commander and they checked on me while I was in the hospital a few weeks ago I have no problem inviting his commander and wife but the rest of the squad I don't think so.. He is it super close to anyone.

My FH is retired AF....he said if he's an officer he should invite his commander. If he's enlisted, he invited his unit supervisor (like his first Sgt.) he doesn't have to invite everyone he works with. That's just too much...... Good luck

This doesn't sound right. We're having a military wedding and we aren't inviting everyone, that's just too many people. However you do have to seat the people you do invite by ranking.

Maybe y'all can help me...my FH is not in the military but his BM is in the Army. Is it ok for us to ask him to not wear his dress uniform and just a regular tux like the rest of them?

Yes you can ask. They as not required to wear formal dress.

Meggersons - it's totally inappropriate for your best man to wear his uniform, it's not a military function.

Amanda - handle it the way you would handle a normal work function. You're not required to invite anyone. It's the commander's job to check on people in the hospital (he's literally required to do it) so don't feel like you have to invite him because of that. If people will be in uniform, the commanding officers need to be seated behind your families at the service and with your parents at the reception.

Amanda, he doesn't have to invite everyone. My husband is military - inviting your commander is a common courtesy though.

ETA: Everything Jeanne said.

I've done a lot of military weddings, and no, not everyone is invited.

I come from a very small command and I never even thought about inviting my commander. lol. Just my guys that I work with in my shop are invited. congratulations!