MIL wants a dance with her son... Sure. Grandma? Come on!

I think letting him dance with his mom would be cute I mean, that is her son. You and your mom should do something cute and fun vs slow dance, it could work. I have been to a wedding where her and her mother danced to a line dance together.

Let him make that decision or let him split a dance with them to the same song.

Mother and son dances are not uncommon, they really aren't. Honestly, I don't know about the grandma/grandson dance but I can guarantee it would probably make his grandmother's day. I wouldn't deny her the happiness of dancing with her grandson because you can have ALL of the other dances with him. :-)

I think I may need to clarify FH and Mother are definitely having a dance, I have got over that. It is the grandmother's dance. Grandma can dance with him all night if she wants, do they really need their own personal dance/song by themselves at our 4 hour wedding? I just think it is a silly request.. maybe I am mistaken.

I still don't think it's that silly - especially if she's close to you. Song are AT MOST four minutes long - four minutes in a four hour wedding is a tiny amount of time compared to years they could be upset at you so refusing to let them do so.

If at worst, talk to your FH - see if he can talk to his mother - but IMO I'd let them do it.

I don't think it's silly. It's a momentous event. If my grandfathers... (getting teary...damnit) were alive, I'd love to dance with them... If FH has no problem with it, I say go for it and enjoy the moment.

ETA - full on tears... thanks a lot...

I would be fine with it, if FH was going to dance with his Grandma, they don't have to dance the whole, they can just dance half of the song.

Grandma dancing with him won't hurt nothing girl, there is too many things as a bride we have to worry about...don't let this be one of them.

Plus you just don't know what that will do for her, she will talk about that for day, months, years! lol

It may be wierd to you, but have you asked your FH how he feels about it? Half of us dont have grandparents, or ones that are too old/fragile to dance. I tell ya if my grandpa was alive & well enough to have a dance, it'd be fun.

This is a personal choice of your FH, not your decision.

No hard and fast rules at weddings anymore. Couples can do what they want -- keep traditions that have meaning, and toss one that don't. I know a few couples who thought the garter and bouquet tosses were ridiculous, so they didn't happen. No one cared.

I'd give grandma her dance. Heck, she's earned it, and it will be a huge highlight for her. Have FH gracefully change partners midway through the song (unless grandma has already picked out her favorite). People like that stuff at weddings -- at least I do, and when I look around during the mother/son, father/daughter, whoever/whoever special dances, most people look charmed by them.

I think he should get to dance with his mom. I'm not having my dad there and no dad and daughter dance but that didn't mean I had to take away D's dance with his mom so they are going to dance. As far as grandma eh, what does it hurt? Just saw MIL gets her dance and yes I would give it to grandma too. You only live once.

Normally parent dances are not the full song, just like 30-60 seconds until the DJ stops the music. A minute with his grandma won't hurt anyone if he wants to do it. That being said, I understand wanting to keep dances to a minimum since guests will be bored.

Maybe mother and son dance thend start off grandmother and grandson but a short way in have others join the floor. Still a special moment between FH and grandma but not asking ppl to sit through too much during a shorter, smaller event

I don't see anything wrong with a grandmother/son dance after the mother/son dance. Were you worried that people would be bored seeing the grandmother/son up there? It's only a few minutes and most people think it's cute when they see grandson dancing with his grandmother. I saw a wedding on TV where the grandson made it a point to dance with his grandmother and also give her a bday cake at his wedding because it was also her bday too. Weddings are about families uniting right? This is probably the last time those 2 will ever dance together like that. Give them the full length of the song. If people get bored watching them, they will wind up talking amongst themselves or go back to eating or drinking. Plus when you're dancing up there, you're not thinking about the guests or if they are watching you or not. Also, I feel if grandma doesn't get her dance with her grandson, she will remember that and maybe make it a point to keep bringing it up in the future, if she's that type of person.

Ok I'm going against the grain here but I DO think it would be awkward for FH to have 2 family dances when you aren't having any. My dad passed & I would be very annoyed if FH wanted a dance in addition to his mom/son dance. Really rubbing salt in the wound, ya know?

I like the idea of mom dancing half the song & then grandma stepping in. That would be cute.

OR you could both dance with your moms at the same time to a fun dancey song & then he could do his grandma dance. (Does grandma want a dance? Or does MIL want it for her?)

If you decide against it I would have FH be like "Honestly mom I'm not comfortable having 2 spotlight dances. I'll ask grandma to dance during the first slow song."

I say if your uncomfortable with it then don't do it its your wedding we aren't even having the mother son dance I just think its too much IMO

I don't see what harm it can do... I think it would be really cute. I am sure you can find someone to dance with, your mom, an uncle, grandpa, etc.

Being an old person, I am sure she will really appreciate the special moment between her and her grandson.

It's your FH's wedding too, if he wants to do it he should.

What song are they going to dance to?

You really can't deny an old woman a dance with her grandson. She's probably been dreaming about it since he was born.