When I was addressing my save the dates, I asked my mom what the appropriate thing to do regarding sending them to our parents is. My parents said they did not want a save the date or invitation because they are paying, are technically the hosts, and don't really need it as a keepsake. My mom said it's common to give wedding stationary to parents for keepsake purposes BUT she recalled when she was sending invites out to her and my dad's wedding she sent an invite to my dad's mother (my grandma). She said my grandma called her quite insulted saying "I didn't realize I needed an invitation to my own sons wedding!" So my mom suggested I just ask my future MIL if she would like one.
My future MIL said she does want a save the date and invitation and I said great no problem I have plenty extra. My fiancé told her he would give her a whole suite of the wedding stationary the next time we see her which is this weekend for Easter.
So save the dates got sent out in the mail to guests and they are starting to arrive at their destinations. My fiancé's mother texted him last night VERY angry that hers didn't come in the mail like everyone else! He kept trying to explain to her that we figured we would save a couple stamps and just give her everything when we see her this weekend as discussed. Her hang up is that she wants all of her stuff just like how guests receive it.
In the grand scheme of things, it's not a big deal and I will address her save the date and invitation envelope and even the reply envelope in the invitation suite but my confusion is why she is so angry?? The only difference is that I'm not putting stamps on her save the date, invitation, or reply card because I am not mailing it. Has anyone else made their parents or future parents-in-law upset regarding getting/not getting save the dates or invitations by mail??
