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I would invite them. You at least know you tried and then it is on them if they are willing to put their religion over their son.

I would also just extend an olive branch and invite them

Invite them. Even if they don't come it shows how much you both want them there.

I would invite them for sure. You never know.

I would invite them. Though I think it’s super messed up that because he was raised in the religion and left they can’t speak to him but because you were never in it they will speak to you.

I say invite them! If they don't show up that's on them.

So he hasn't spoken to them since he was a teenager? I would invite them as long as FH is ok with it. This way you guys are showing that you still love them and want them there. If they choose not to come at least you know you did your part.

Does he want them in attendance? If so, no one can stop them from talking to each other even if her religion forbids it. You're not bound by those rules in your home or at your wedding. If they show up, great. If they don't , at least you tried.

View Quoted Comment Yes he misses his family a great deal but won’t go back to the church just to be with them. We have decided to invite them but no he hasn’t spoke to them since he was in his late teens

View Quoted Comment Hopefully they decide to attend. They should be allowed to visit when they want with no fear whatsoever of the church leaders. No family deserves that.

View Quoted Comment I agree. I feel like even if they don’t speak while there showing up would go so far for his mental state.

I would talk it over with your fiance first and then if he wants them there you can invite them and if they don't come thats on them and at least you tried.

So, um, here's the thing. They aren't ALLOWED to speak to him. That's a very strict rule with Witnesses.

This is a very sticky situation because it's a religious issue.

You absolutely have to speak to your FH about this, and navigate the complexities of the culture with him.

But be prepared for them to ignore you completely.

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I agree, your FH should be included in the decision.