Middle name or last name?

That's actually the traditional way of doing it.

If your parents' names aren't listed on the invitation, then you should include your last name. It would be very strange to see an invite without the bride's last name at all. Just because you're changing it doesn't mean it doesn't exist! It will still be your last name at the time invitations are sent. You can do first, middle, last.

If your parents names are listed though - ie. "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith request the honor of your presence", then you can just do your first and middle.

Your FH can just do first and last.

My parents will be listed

^^ no it's not too much , as long as both of them fit on one line on the invitation! ETA - this is to Nastassia

Whitney, in that case, you only list your first and middle names.

I'm sticking our full names on there, I have two middle names and fh only has one but I'm not worried about it.

We are thinking of having our kids names listed on the invite instead of our parents (since we did things backwards). Thoughts?

Even if you are changing your name after the marriage, your guests need to be able to recognize who you are from the invitation. The only time I've seen just first and middle is when the parents' names are shown, e.g.,

Mr. and Mrs. James Smith

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Mary Elizabeth

In that instance, the daughter's last name is obvious from the context. However, if your parents names are not there, you really need to include your own last name.

Does every single person in your FH's family also know your last name? Does every single member of your family know his last name? If you're not 100% sure, then it needs to be on the invites.

I agree with MauiWowie. Even if people know your first name, they may know others with the same first name.

And it simply doesn't make sense not to use your last name. Even if you're changing it, it's your last name now. Why make things more confusing for people?

I think this is the traditional way to do it.

Depends on wording. If your parent's last names are on there, yours isn't. My invites are worded "Dr and Mrs SS request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Laura Elizabeth to JPM". You could just write fiancé firstname lastname. But if you're doing the modern "together with their families" wording, your last names need to be on it.

Thanks ladies

We have a lot of last names going on.

I am divorced, but kept my ex-husband's last name after the divorce. I do not want to use my ex-husband's last name on our invitations. Also, FH has a different last name that his parents because they got married after he was born and never changed his last name from his mother's maiden name.

Our invitations read:

Mr. & Mrs. [my parent's last name/my maiden name] request the honour of your presence at the wedding of their daughter [first and middle name] to [FH's first, middle, last names] son of [FMILs first and last name] and the late [FH father's first and last name].

So if you are using " Together with their families" do you use the bride and grooms first middle and last? Or just first and last?

I have a middle name, and professionally I don't even use my last name. But on our invite I put everything - first, middle, and last. He only has first & last, and we put that.

Both my parents, and both of his - all 4 people have different last names lol. So I gave up with the names thing and just went with everyone's full name.