Looking for advice or stories from anyone that re-imagined their "normal" wedding into a microwedding. My wedding is set for May 2021 and we have realized as each month goes by that we are just not comfortable with even a 75 count guest list. My dad is also high-risk for covid and it is very important to me that he is at our wedding to witness our marriage. I'd love to hear from others shifting from a larger wedding to a smaller one, or those of you that did and how it went!
Latest activity by Amanduh, on January 8, 2021 at 2:23 PM
We had an entire wedding planned for around 200+ guests but recently canceled it all to plan a more intimate ceremony to avoid having it canceled last minute due to COVID.
We found venue that could host us inside and outside and made sure to chose vendors who had a COVID plan if push came to shove, which was great for a peace of mind. We actually were able to turn our wedding plans into a dream that we weren't able to do with a larger wedding by doing this! Plus, the amount of money you save is amazing.
The only real issue we have run into is having family members give us a hard time about who we invited since we were planning a very small wedding. Keep the mindset that it is YOUR day and make sure you invite people who are important to YOU and your fiancé.
COVID restrictions make planning these things a little harder, but you will actually have so many opportunities to make it perfect by downsizing! Good luck!!
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Thank you! Did you have a virtual aspect of your ceremony for those not in person? Or had you not invited everyone yet? We've sent save the dates, but not formal invites so I'm thinking about having a virtual ceremony for those not in person.
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As of now we aren't doing anything virtual! We also don't have any high risk family members who aren't comfortable coming though! I've heard of a lot of brides doing a zoom call and have a camera/phone set up on the front row to watch the ceremony for those who can't come and it's turned out great! If you're like me and don't want the guests taking pictures with their phones during the ceremony, I would have something set up to video stream that no one really messes with!
We had a courthouse wedding not sure if that’s considered micro. But we had a very small reception at my house after with my parents & in laws and 1 or 2 friends. I decorated my backyard & we had food & drinks.
We downsized and had our 7 person wedding at an outdoor garden ceremony and the reception back at our apartment. Was supposed to be a 92 person wedding. Hubby family wasn't happy and decided not to come. But my parents and his two friends helped make our day super special. We saved money and the fact that it was super intimate really was fun and special
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Def do what's best for you! And I'm glad we did it when we did because we didn't want to postpone and covid hasn't changed since may 16 2020. Whatever your decision, enjoy your day!
My fiance and I have had a long engagement and we were planning a relatively small wedding from the start (about 60 people). We have decided that we would feel much better planning a smaller wedding since we have no real idea of what is going on with COVID. We have dropped down to the main 25 guests we would want there. I'm actually even more excited because I think having a more intimate wedding where we can truly enjoy spending time with everyone is going to be amazing. I think sticking to what you really want in your wedding is what will make you happiest.
We originally planned a 30 guest count wedding in a museum precovid, in the city I live in. I cancelled about a month before the mandates happened and received all my deposits back. Whew! Now we are having less than 10 guests in an outdoor ceremony, 400 miles away from the city we live in abd is in my hometown and where my parents live. At first I was bummed but now I'm even more excited than before COVID. Before, I was super stressed out and felt like I was caving in to everyone's demands. I also was super nervous that ppl would talk behind our backs and say how lame our wedding was (bc I've heard with my own ears certain people in my original guesr count do this to others). Now with just immediate family as guests, I'm confident they will enjoy our tiny wedding and love us too much to speak negatively behind our backs. I get to do things 100% my FH's and my way! And our spending decreased. We are spending now a third of the amount we were gonna spend on the original wedding. Deal with your disappointment/hurt then Embrace the pros of your wedding changes.
We're doing the same thing, a small microwedding with parents and the bridal party (25 people) We are having someone livestream the ceremony for us, so that the rest of the original guest list can watch if they want. I'm going to send out invites inviting people to the virtual stream and include instructions on how to view the stream.
We got married in December. We cut our guest list from 120 to 17, basically our parents/siblings and wedding party. We had to change venue because our original venue was not open but we went to a venue we had originally toured and liked, but that was too small for 120 guests. We redid the whole thing in 3 months. Because it was our friends, it just felt really relaxed. Everyone came a few days beforehand as we live far from everyone and we got to hang out with everyone (safely, outside and with masks and/or social distancing). It was really a wonderful time. We live-streamed the ceremony for all our guests and they were all so appreciative. Honestly we don’t regret it. We made the most out of the situation, it wasn’t as I had imagined and not having my grandparents/cousins there was super sad and hard but it unfortunately is what it is.We’re proud that we took the safety of our guests into consideration and loved the whole day, even the pictures with masked people.