Microwedding + sequel wedding due to Covid...

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I'm sorry you had to postpone 😭 i did too, June 5th, but I only pushed it back a couple months in hoping that wedding will be allowed but I dont know at this point. I am have a small wedding with my immediate family on the 5th to keep our date. We are having it in my Aunts back yard, putting lights in the trees, putting out some tables and chairs and going to order from a local restaurant to cater. Something simple. Don't get too stressed out from it. Just remember your big day is still ahead! I will be the only one walking down the aisle with my immediate family, besides my flower girl (she's 6 and was devastated when I told her the weddjng was pushed back). Also, I'm saving THE dress for the big wedding for all my family and friends to see but I did however purchase a simple dress on lulus.com thats definitely and option! I'll attach a picture of the dress I ordered. Also, just remember your family and friends won't care what you do, theyll be happy to be there and celebrate YOU! Good luck to you and your fiance!

View Quoted Comment We are doing the same thing kinda. Our original day is May 30th but the wedding will now be on August 22nd. We are just doing a small ceremony with friends that are here where we stay because our families stay so far away. All we are trying to figure out is if we suppose to say our vows both times 😩😩. We both have been to a wedding for a very long time.

View Quoted Comment My cousin is marrying us, we aren't doing our own vows at all (Thank God cause I'm a cryer) plus I'd be too nervous to say whats on my heart in front of my entire family lol. Ugh good luck!

We are having a small ceremony august 15th and I went through all those same thoughts! I decided to get a cheap white dress on Amazon, hopefully it will be here monday! I also got a flower crown cause why not lol I decided I'm going to be the only one walking down the isle even though all of our bridal party is going to be here. And it's just going to be in our backyard and we will be having a small bbq after if it is allowed around here.

It is all about what you want. If you plan to have a ceremony twice you can wear the dress to both or only one and find another dress for the other. I would skip a lot of the formalities and keep it simple on the microwedding. It will be less stressful and more candid that way. My cousin had 3 weddings (her husband was not a citizen at the time) and she just wore white jeans with a tulle skirt and white shirt to the first (real quick wedding) and we did a champagne toast with just the immediate family in a park. Then for her U.S. wedding she wore the dress and did all the usual wedding essentials.

Figure out how you guys want to celebrate and do it that way!

Do whatever feels best to you!

We will be doing the same. I am going to wear my original dress this year because I can't bear the thought of not getting to wear it for so much longer. I am actually going to buy a brand new dress for next year to treat myself for the stress lol. I plan to walk down the aisle but no one else. Our "reception" at the micro wedding will be at my parents house. We will still have florals and light tons of candles and set up small cocktail tables in the house. We are even going to have a first dance in the living room. If possible, we may invite guests to drive by so we can wave to them from the driveway.

We are in a similar situation and will likely be pushing our May 30, 2020 wedding all the way back until June 12, 2021 (the next date all our vendors have availability) or possibly later. I'd love to keep our original date, but I think even if we do a micro-ceremony it will have to wait until at least June this year because of the current stay-at-home orders in our state.

For me, I feel like making each event unique will make them feel special, and then I can frame it as "what do we gain by having two events" not "what do we lose because we cannot have the wedding we originally planned." During the wedding planning process you need to make compromises and decisions about what to wear, the venue, food, etc, and you inevitably pick some things over other things. I'm looking at our micro-wedding as a chance to have the things we didn't pick for our big wedding - for example, a different hairstyle or dress, a scenic location we couldn't have used with all of our guests, ice cream for dessert (we went for ice cream on our first date but we wanted something a little more elegant for our wedding).

My FH really wants me to wear my "wedding dress" on the day we legally marry, so I would recommend having a discussion with your partner regarding attire. You may both want to "save" your wedding looks for the big ceremony and opt for more casual attire or different looks for your micro-wedding. What to wear may also depend on the location you decide on for your minimony as well as your future plans. My dress has a long train so is going to be less practical in a courthouse or walking through the woods but we're also in our mid-30s and can't put off having a baby forever. Wearing my dress now also ensures it will get worn, just in case we are able to start a family before our party/celebration with friends can happen and my dress no longer fits then.

I'm not envisioning an "aisle" for our mini-wedding but I think this depends on how many people you have and where you are having it. An event with 5-6 people total is going to look different than one with 20 guests. If we just did us and our parents there would basically just be a few people standing nearby as we do our vows. Even if we decided to include our wedding parties and maybe a few other friends, at such as small event they would just be audience members and there would be not be a procession like at our wedding ceremony we are hoping to have next year.

Where to have your mini-wedding depends largely on the size of your group and how mobile everyone it in is, as well as legal things like land access, wedding/photo permits, and Covid-19 closures. I'd love to do our vows at a really scenic natural area, like on top of a mountain, but hiking or walking longer distances may be challenging for our parents, and easier to access places like scenic roadside pull-offs tend to be more crowded. At a lot of public areas like parks you might be able to just do it on the fly without a permit if your group size is small and you are not bringing in decor or seating (assuming the parks are not closed in your area). Plenty of people elope on mountain tops in public lands, backyards, and private gardens. We've had friends get married at a scenic covered bridge. You could rent an AirBnB with a gorgeous garden or lakeside deck. There are so many options, especially with smaller groups. Most areas where you can do an engagement shoot you can also do some quick wedding vows and photos if it's just you, your partner, and officiant. If you aren't sure if you can have a wedding somewhere legally, ask your officiant, photographer, family lawyer, or contact the park/business manager or town/county/state where the spot you have in mind is located.

There's a lot of ways you can handle this. The first thing I did was look for local "elopement" packages. I surprised to find several. We're renting a lovely little decorated Chapel for an hour for the ceremony (6 guests and 2 photogs) for $200. If we need an officiant, they'll do that too for an extra $75.

Luckily our photographers for our big wedding (postponed to next summer) were also available on our new elopement date. And then we're planning on a simple cook out at our home after the elopement with no more than 25 people (less if required by the group restrictions at the time).

As to the dress, I'm still undecided. I've bought two cute little cocktail dresses to try on this weekend. If I like one of them, that will be my elopement dress, and the wedding dress will be saved for next year. If I don't, then I'll wear my wedding dress twice, and change into a more casual dress for the cookout after the elopement. If option B ends up happening, I'm planning to save my veil and jewelry for next year to make that event feel a little more special.

You just need to breathe a bit, take a few days to, and then think about what will make you happy.

I think you should feel free to wear your dress to both if you want to. We're going to the courthouse now, and I fully intend to wear my dress. It's the one I felt like a bride in when I tried it on and even though we're not having the original ceremony and reception we planned we're still getting married. Plus then we're planning to go to a park for pictures after. That could always be an option for you too, if you decide to have the microwedding indoors or in a place that doesn't have as many picture options

I think that having a restaurant cater sounds like the best idea. You probably won't have that many guests for the microwedding but at least if you do that you're not stressing about getting the food cooked at the same time you're getting ready.

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I agree. We are starting to think about an elopement this year and pushing the bigger wedding to next year. I am looking at is as a way to try out things I had liked for our wedding, but didn't make the final cut. I plan to wear the dress I have for the reception, which is a very different style but still white, have different type of food and possibly a different hairstyle. My current attitude is I am not losing a wedding, but gaining a second experience.