Micromanaging

I am in the middle. I am trying to be "hands off" and let people help but I am very OCD in general, so I like to do everything my self so it is nice and neat. What I ended up doing with my FMIL because she really wants to be involved is let her do whatever she wants for the rehearsal.

I really thought I wouldn't care as much as I do. But there seems to be so many options for every single thing and everyone you meet has an opinion.

I think i was in the middle. I for sure had a vision i wanted and did a lot of things myself but at the same time i was not keen on it needing to stick entirely to the vision i had. i was very open to other options.

I thought I would be super controlling, but am a little more hands off than I thought I would be!

I was mostly a hands off bride. I didn't have time to boss adults around (and still don't)! Something that really irked my nerves was beyond my control. At the RD my parents paid for, his parents showed up late. Not only late, but also with their own food! They didn't bring it to share with the group! I was shocked, but I know them so their behavior was to be expected

I am more controlling than I thought I would be! I thought my parents would do the bulk of the planning since I'm getting married where they live (my hometown). They don't understand that vendors need to be booked well in advance and all the little details so I had to take over. It's more stressful but a lot of planning can be done from afar and now I know everything that's going on with my wedding

I guess I'm both. We planned everything ourselves. Parents didn't really offer to help. My friends offered, but I told them no thanks because I've got it. But, I'm not a bridezilla either.... I've actually found planning to be quite easy. And, I love to plan things anyway so it's been a really fun project. Between this website and the knot, you have plenty of reviews to make decisions on vendors inside your budget. I figured all those other bridezillas can't be wrong LOL. The most difficult task, so far, has been the invite list and cutting people out of it. That was difficult....

I'm finding that I'm micromanaging all the details. This is my second marriage, and my first wedding was a shotgun wedding - I was 18 and had to just accept whatever was decided for me. FMIL did ask if she could be in charge of the catering, and I'm honestly 100% ok with that. I want full control over my decor, dress, flowers, etc. (pretty much all the things I didn't really have a say-so in before)

In your case, did your FMIL know what you wanted for your centerpieces? Or did she just take it upon herself?

I am definitely a micromanager. I want whatever I plan to happen be executed perfectly.
I'm having a hard time trusting my vendors. If they will arrive on time, show up at all, do a good job, etc. This is completely out of my control and it stresses me out.
I keep telling myself that they are experienced. Not to worry. Trust my choice and trust them.

I tried to be more in the middle.

Things I cared about, I made sure to take care of, but things DH cared more about, I let him handle.

If neither of us cared, we either skipped it, or went with the advice of our vendor.

That's not to say some things didn't cause stress, but this approach helped minimize it.