Micro Wedding

I am ! I am only having my parents his parents and sibs physically present at the micro wedding. I am doing bridal party and other members next year. I am doing zoom for my micro wedding and I just say I think Itis the best decision. I didn’t include my bridal party to physically be there because some of our bridal party is out of state and traveling is not the best right now, but of your bridal party is local then it might be worth it !

We were planning a micro wedding for 5 guests before the pandemic and since then have decided to add the livestream option for family and friends to watch.

It will be me and fiancé, our 2 sons and our parents. we are hoping to do a backyard celebration with friends and family on our one year anniversary.

View Quoted Comment Yes our bridal party is all local expect for 1

We are in the midst of re-planning for this and figuring out things for next year. For our elopement it’s just going to be our parents and his brother. No live streaming, just very simple.

We had a micro wedding on our original date of June 19!


At that time, gatherings were limited to 10 people in Illinois. We had 11 people (shh!) including my husband and I: my mom, my sister, my uncle, two of my aunts, my husband’s mom, dad, and two sisters. Originally I wanted to only have it be my mom, sister, aunt and uncle (and us of course!), but my husband’s family decided they just had to fly in from California (defeated my purpose of distancing as much as possible because they stayed with us). When my mom found out they were coming she threw a fit until I let her sister (my aunt) come.
We had a quick (super special) ceremony at a nature preserve in the county next to us because we couldn’t get a marriage license in our own house. My aunt officiated and my uncle (dad’s oldest brother) walked me “down the aisle” because my father had passed away and my uncle took it super seriously!
After the ceremony we had BBQ at our house and everybody (except my in-laws) went home. It was short and simple.
For all of our family who couldn’t attend, we recorded the ceremony and I uploaded it to YouTube (unlisted) and sent the link so even my least tech-savvy family members could watch it!

I’m having one next week with 35 people and everyone else on zoom! Big party next year when I will wear my dress!

First off, I’m so sorry you’re having to change your plans. It’s so so hard to let go of what you’ve been dreaming of!
We just did a small ceremony on our original date of June 27th. We did immediate family and bridal party (26 people including us). We zoomed the ceremony and part of the reception. There were 50 some participants in the zoom call, but obviously there were a lot of families, so probably around half of our original 200 attended via Zoom. Make sure to have a good sound system so that zoom participants can hear. Do a test run the day before to work out all visual and audio kinks.

Other than having some guests tune in via zoom and less people there in person, everything was exactly the same as it would’ve been. Same ceremony (just socially distanced), same menu at the reception, same center pieces and decor, we still did our dance and dances with my dad/his mom, best men/MOHs still did their toasts, and since it was a smaller crowd, we did open mic afterwards which was really really sweet and honestly probably my favorite part of the day.
Though it was really hard not to have the big wedding we were planning, I found that 26 is much more my speed and my type of event. Everyone that was there was invested in helping, and so I didn’t feel the pressure of hosting as much as I would’ve with 200. Were doing a big reception next year, and since we very much treated this year as the wedding, I can just have fun without the pressure and stress of it being my wedding day.

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Thank you so much for your reply! I was feeling a bit guilty for including my bridal party but not my extended family. I am super close to my mom's sisters but they are all out of town and felt weird inviting my bridal party over them definitely since they have always been there for all my big life events. I just didn't want them to feel obligated to travel here because they are all over 60 but I know they would do it for me (I'm like their daughter). I talked to my very close Aunt and she ensured me that she was okay just being included on Zoom, but its still weird. As you said it is very hard to let go of your dream wedding! UGH COVID!!

Question: Did you include your bridal parties spouses/ significant others? I know in a "normal" wedding you will include spouses in an invite. Some of the spouses we are close with and others not so much. Not sure what the rule is for cases like this as we are trying to keep the guest list as low as possible. With our immediate family and bridal party (plus their spouses) will be 30 people including us.

Congratulations on your marriage!!

View Quoted Comment We did-but that only added two extra people. There were two sets of husband/wife in the bridal party (my brother/sister in law, his brother/sister in law), and then we gave jobs to those two SOs (one ran sound, one did my hair and then was in charge of the zoom call). If others had had a girlfriend or boyfriend, We probably wouldn’t have invited them unless we were super close with the SO as well.

Our August 16th wedding was postponed, and we can't even pick a new date until they've been given the green light to host weddings. So, our plan is to get married on our original wedding date with just us, our officiant and photographer. We don't want to invite anyone because 1) his family lives out of state, or hours away and it will be so short and simple there's no point in having them come down for it and 2) we don't want anyone there, worried that it will take away from the bigger/actual ceremony/reception/celebration. Also, it gives us the opportunity to have an intimate ceremony with just us, and the dream one we planned with all our friends and family once it's safe to do so. No Zoom. No dress. No vows. Saving it all for next year! Wish you the best!

My fiance and I are! We will only have a few people at the "elopement" this year but will have a full blown ceremony next year in March for everyone!

My fiance and I planned our Aug 8, 2020 wedding in Mystic, Ct. However, we chose to postpone the celebration until 2021 and have a micro wedding instead on our original date. We decided to have it at his fathers place on the ocean in old saybrook instead with 15 close family members only. We have the same photographer and found a new caterer to put together food. We are streaming music on a bluetooth speaker for our ceremony and the reception. Doing zoom for everyone to see the ceremony only. Will do a separate zoom for 2 people who will be giving speeches. Traditional wedding cake ordered from a local bakery. No wedding party....it is actually a lot easier to plan the small one and not worry so much aboyt the pomp and circumstance if things like first dance, DJs, cutting the cake, etc. I am excited to get married soon but also mentally exhausted at having had to plan 2 weddings.