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Cassandra
Devoted September 2021

Micro Wedding Stress!! Help!

Cassandra, on August 13, 2020 at 6:12 PM Posted in Planning 1 9
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Hi ladies! I am in some serious need for help. My original wedding was planned for 4/25 and it was a medium sized wedding with all the bells and whistles (aka vendors). We decided to postpone the big celebration until Sept 2021. We are having a micro wedding in Savannah, GA this year so we can still get married and celebrate. We are having 15-18 people attend (our bridal parties and parents).

For some reason I am WAY more stressed out about this wedding than I was for the originally planned wedding. It could be that I am more stressed because we are closer to the date. I think a lot of it has to do with not having a wedding planner/day of coordinator for this micro wedding, not having a professional baker to deliver the cake the day of, and not having a DJ for the ceremony and first dance.

My BMs are going to help set up decor the morning of, one of my BMs is going to handle the music, and another is going to take care of the cake. However, these details are really stressing me out. Is there something I can do to make these details fail proof and more seamless?

Is anyone else feeling the same way about a smaller more DIY wedding?

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Latest activity by Kristen, on August 16, 2020 at 11:14 AM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    I would say that you hire a day of coordinator so that way you do not stress. It depends on all you are planning to do. A micro wedding should be less stress more than a bigger wedding I would think. The only thing you can do is make a list of all you need done for the day and delegate but remember your bridal party also needs time to get ready too.

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
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    We have a small wedding (50 guests) and I am not hiring a DOC. I did all the planning. One of my friends is handling the music and meeting the baker.
    Honestly NOTHING is perfect, imperfection is perfect, trust and believe and I promise you no matter what goes wrong (nothing major will) - the ONLY person that would notice is you because you did all the planning.

    Your day will be perfect and beautiful, I promise!
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  • Jeni
    Devoted July 2021
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    My minimony for 7 guests was WAY more stressful than planning and postponing my 150-guest wedding. Maybe because, like you, I have a planner for the big day, but DIYed my minimony within a month. The day turned out great, but I'm so glad it's over! Whatever happens that day happens; just take it all in stride and enjoy getting married! ❤
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  • Super August 2020
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    It's definitely not just you, planning a small event without a coordinator is WAY harder than planning a big event with a coordinator. Make a list of everything that will happen that day and everything you need for each step, and buy or plan for anything you don't have. It should give you a sense of control over the situation. Let me know if you need a better description or want an example.
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  • Cassandra
    Devoted September 2021
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    Yeah, it just financially doesn't make sense for us to hire a day of coordinator for a micro wedding with 17 people that only lasts 2.5 hours. I think just having to plan and pay for 2 weddings, it's hard to spend a lot of money on the second wedding unfortunately. I'm trying to make lists and delegate properly, but the stress is still overwhelming.

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  • Cassandra
    Devoted September 2021
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    Thank you so much! This is something that I definitely needed to hear. I just need to get back in the mindset that as long as I marry my best friend everything will be okay - the rest is just details.

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  • Cassandra
    Devoted September 2021
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    Yes, that is so true! I didn't consider that I threw together this wedding in about 2 months and had 2 years (now 3 years) for the big wedding. Thank you so much Smiley heart .

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  • Cassandra
    Devoted September 2021
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    That totally makes sense - thank you!

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  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
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    Totally understandable. If I can say one thing most brides say there will be hiccups the day of but they still enjoy the day. It is normal to be stressed but just plan as much in advance as possible. Worse case drink wine. Smiley smile

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