Micro Wedding: Should we expect gifts and cards?

I think this really depends on your social circle. Personally I try not to expect anything so I don't end up disappointed but I think your guests should bring a card and/or a gift, I would never dream of showing up to someone's special event regardless of the size without at least a little something. Personally I send cards and gifts to people I love even if I m not invited to the celebration. Life is too short and too hard at times celebrate the good times when you can is my motto. Happy planning!

I would bring a gift, probably a card with money or a gift card. If I saw a card box, that would be all I need to figure out what to do. I'm not sure you need the "Cards & Gifts" sign.

I would not have the sign, but have a tote bag that closes or a box so cards do not get lost. Ask someone to be in charge of placing any gifts in the car.

I'm very glad you're finally having your special day. Like the other ladies, I would say cards and even gifts are in order. Your family knows all you've been through. Supporting you on your day but also bringing a gift is definitely in order. A registry may also help. You ca even do a wedding announcement after you get married with the registry information attached. That may help you to receive more of the things you need. Congratulations!

While I'd expect most guests would bring a gift/card, with such a small number of people, I don't think a sign is necessary and might seem kind of awkward -- I'd guess most guests will be part of a couple or family unit and will likely bring a joint gift, so at the most you're probably only talking about maybe 10 cards. I'd have a designated spot where people could leave them -- maybe a basket or box -- but I don't think you need a sign. Congrats!

I would never *expect* anything, but I still think it’s always helpful to have a designated space so no one is carrying around a card wondering where to put it or just handing it to you, leaving you to deal with it. So I’d think it’s still worth having a card box.

We’re in the same position. We’re having a microwedding of 30 people. Originally we were planning a larger wedding (before Covid reschedules) so I got a beautiful glass and gold card box. Now that we’ve downsized, I decided not to use the card box. With that few people, it just seemed potentially awkward and presumptuous to put it out- like we were expecting people to give us something. We didn’t want to seem greedy or presumptuous, or for our guests to feel bad if they didn’t bring a card or anything.

Such a sign would be awkward at even a 200 guest wedding


Have a blank card box available on a table, and people will get the idea. Everyone brought cards and gifts to my 9 guest wedding. They knew to put their gifts on the only empty table.

Yes, you will get cards and gifts. I would never attend such an event empty Handed.

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Yes this is exactly how I feel, I don't want to be presumptuous. Thank you for your comment.

Ok so I will just put the box out and kick out the sign. I won't expect much but will be happy to receive anything our guests bring for us. 😊

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Thank you 😊

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Customary as it is to give gifts, you are never properly supposed to expect or refer to them in any way. I find those envelope boxes, much less any sign referring to gifts to be in questionable taste since they imply something is expected. Even at large, traditional weddings, I've seen most people collect envelopes, usually it's someone with a jacket pocket, and periodically lock them up in a safe or adjoining office or have someone trusted do that for you. With your numbers this should be easy enough. Most properly and conveniently, gifts should be sent ahead of time so that this isn't necessary, but it's common in some circles to bring gifts the day of, especially cash gifts.