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Holley
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Memory table

Holley, on January 21, 2020 at 9:49 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 18
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Hello fellow brides I have a question has anyone done a memory table or memory row for thier wedding between me and my fiance we have lost a good bit if people in our life the last few years that meant the world to us and we want to remember then during the wedding but we have gotten some backlash from other living family members that it's a wedding not a memorial service or that it's a happy celebration dont make people remember thier loved ones are gone so has anyone done one and it was a perfect addition to the wedding I really wanna do it cause his 2 best friends who he had wanted to be groomsmen since the day we met back in high school tragically passed away 5 years to the day of each other and never got to fulfill that role and I want to include my papa who was my best friend my confident and much much more but I dont want to remind people that they are gone or take away from my big day so any advice will be great thanks

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Latest activity by Holley, on January 22, 2020 at 7:23 PM
  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    I wanted to do it because I miss those people and wish they were there and would like to think their spirit is with me on my special day. And that was enough of a reason for me.
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  • Holley
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    Holley ·
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    I believe the same they are there in spirit but I want to acknowledge that they havent been forgotten on a day we all planned out in high school when we first met each other
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  • Sara
    Expert February 2020
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    I'm having the opposite problem. Memorial tables are big at weddings where I'm from..and a few people seem to be disappointed with me only having a sign. I'm not a fan of having a bunch of photos out of people who have passed. It will make me cry. To go with our subtle Harry Potter elements and to still honor those we love who can't be there I made this Memory table 4


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  • Holley
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    Holley ·
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    Omg that is beautiful and goes so well with a hate potter theme I was maybe thinking instead of photos use the first row and either but a ribbon of thier favorite color or something that reminds me of them so when I say I do they will be right there with us
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  • M
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    Michelle ·
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    I’m doing a memorial bouquet on a table with each person represented by a different flower. I’ll have their wedding photos on the same table. If it is meaningful to you, do it. I’m having one because it’s my way of having those people at my wedding in spirit.
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  • Holley
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    Thats a smart idea I have also thought about a special row or memory row and do a different color bow / thier favorite color bow or something that reminds us of me example my papa was a huge football fan so I might have a football with a purple ribbon on it in his seat so when I say I do I have something to look at and for pictures me and my FH can do a few pictures with the items since we cant take pictures with them
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  • Nikki
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    Call me crazy but I’m doing quite a bit to honor my loved ones: mostly honoring my sis and nephew that passed away 1 year ago due to a tragic rear end crash
    2 days before the ceremony we will be doing a celebration at my sis and nephew grave, giving my sister her bouquet.
    On the day of I will line each row with pic of family that passed awayThen I will have 2 chairs for my sis and nephew with a few things that they love or have memories ofThe during the reception I will have a video featuring the start of our relationship along with a memorial portionThis wedding is about us but also about family we wouldn’t be anything with out the family that is no longer with us.
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  • Holley
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    Holley ·
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    Omg that's is soooo sweet I lost my papa September 17 2018 4 days before his 82nd birthday and my daughters 2nd birthday so she was born on his 80th birthday and he was like a second dad to me and my FH lost both of his best friends 5 years to the date of each other first was October 15 2014 the other was october 15 2019 we had all planned mine and my fiance's wedding in high school before they passed away so I wanna do something special for all of them as well as my moms best friend who passed in 2018 as well I considered her my aunt so I might get items that reminds us of the one we lost and have them in the front row and then at the reception have a area for the photos of each one so they are included in everything
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  • Cyndy
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    We did a memorial table but we also left open chairs and the ceremony for a few of our very close family (parents, siblings, etc) and then had a moment of silence while my husband and I put a single rose on each chair.
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  • Tina
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    Definitely having a memorial table especially as both FH and I have both lost a parent. And neither of us have our grandparents with us anymore. Saying “don’t make people remember the loved ones who are gone” is ridiculous! I think at an event like a wedding is when you remember them the most! All your loved ones are there except for those who have died, you feel that empty hole even more.
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  • Cherry
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    We're doing a memorial string. It will have photos of everyone we lost. We wanted to do a table, but in the end we had about 22 people between the two of us and would take up so much space on a table! We're stringing them up across our archway so that they can get a front row view without taking up any extra seats either. I'm excited about it because it means in some of our photos from the ceremony, their faces will be in the background, and it'll be almost like they were really there. Smiley heart

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  • Holley
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    Holley ·
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    Aww that'so sweet I have talked it over with my fiance and we have decided to do a memorial row cause we only have 70 guests attending so we will have extra chairs we will have an item that reminds us of them and thier favorite ribbon color then for the reception we will have photos the the entrance on a long table where you sign the guest book so while your waiting to sign in you can also look at the photos and it's like they are watching over us as we come into the reception safe and leave the reception safe and then at the end we can have mementos to keep as well
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  • Holley
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    I completely agree we lost 4 important people before we got engaged 2 of them my fiance wanted to be groomsmen since the day he met me the other is my papa who 80th birthday was the day my beautiful daughter came into his world and he passed shortly before his 82nd and her second birthday I also want to remember my twin sister who died at age 19 plus a few other and I dont feel it's right to have my biggest day ever without them even if it's in spirit me and my FH talked it over and we are going to do a memorial row at the ceremony and the photos at the reception at the door so they are watching over us as we come and leave protecting and celebrating along with us
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  • KYLIE
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    We had a small table, super simple with no sign—just one votive candle that was part of our regular centerpieces and framed pics of my dad, my DH's deceased grandparents and aunt. It was subtle and lovely and no one had anything negative to say.

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  • Cherry
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    I love the idea of having their photos by the entryway. What a unique and wonderful way to honor them. Smiley heart

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  • M
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    I think this is a lovely idea! If it is meaningful to you, do it!
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  • Nikki
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    I’m sorry for your loss. Honestly just do what feels right to you! Don’t let others influence you on what you wanna do. It’s your wedding 😁😁😁
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  • Holley
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    Thank you so much
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