Memory area/table

I'm just doing 1 candle with loved ones pics on the outside...No sign though.

The more recent the death, the harder it will be.

I'm personally not a fan of these tables, but I understand why some people want them. You could always attach some picture charms to your bouquet instead.

But as for drawing the line, that's on you... Siblings? Parents? Grandparents? Aunts and Uncles? I think you have to have those in circles, but I'm really not sure of etiquette on this...

Some people will say this may not be a good idea, but . . .

We did one at our wedding. We included those who were closest to us: grandparents, a few aunts and uncles, and a couple of friends who had passed early in life. Almost all of our guests paused by the table for a moment or two during the reception, pointed out one picture or another, said a few words ("Hey, remember that time Uncle Joe did ____") and moved on. We didn't find it sad at all.

I think the key is to keep it small and understated. Don't put a big spotlight on it in any way, and I feel like most guests will be appreciative.

I don't think it's a good idea, if you forget someone. It will cause drama on your day, this day is also supposed to be about you and your fiancé. You don't want these sad feelings brought up on your day. Maybe just a sign that says those are watching from heaven with a candle that's lit.

We are doing pictures but only of immediate family..my 4 grandparents and my godmother as well as Fh's 2 grandparents and his great grandmother.

I didn't want the "dead table," yet I still wanted to honor those who passed. We put out all the wedding photos of immediate family members, leaving and deceased as a way of showing the two families merging. It was a huge hit!

We will be doing a table with pictures. We are doing grandparents, aunts and uncles.

My dad passed away a month and a half ago. We are doing a table with my dads picture along with my FH grandmas picture and a quote. I'm also having my florist wrap one of his tis around my bouquet. Just depends on you though. It's your day! Do what makes you happy.

I don't recall where I read this suggestion; but someone was doing a 'family' table instead. The table would have pics of those living & passed. I like that idea a lot better...still acknowledges loved ones; but not a funeral-feeling memorial table?!?

My father passed 2.5 months before the big day (got married early in his hospital room, big day was a re-enactment). My mother passed when I was just a kid. I had my parents wedding picture, pictures of all the grandparent( my side was wedding and engagement picture, his side normal pics were all we could get). I also had a custom vase etched with a memorial saying, my parents names and years of birth and death on front, on the back was our name and the date. I had if filled with navy wax to match the wedding and lit it with the pictures. It is now on display in our home with our other wedding keepsakes.

We are thinking of just lighting a candle in a lantern and placing a sign next to it. No one is named, so no one gets upset :-D

Our grandparents were the only important people missing on our big day..I had framed engagement/ wedding pics of them on the shelves to either side of our cake table with other decor to not make a huge statement and keep it simple but was special to me.

Some people say don't do this. Some are even insensitive enough to call it a "dead table". My little sister died and there is no way I'd get married without including her.

We have a beautiful sign I made on Etsy that lists her name, our grandparents and a friend of mine.

We will have a white pillar candle next to it and some rose petals.

Honestly, it's a very personal choice & I think PP are just stating their personal opinion/bringing up different suggestions.

I just want to deal with my emotions of those not able to attend privately/go for a walk the morning of & get it out of the way else I'd be bawling all day. So we are just doing 1 candle & that's all. As a guest, if I saw a whole table full of deceased loved ones, it would make me sad/weird me out to the point I'd have to avoid that area the rest of the night & change the vibe of it being a wedding for a bit. But that's just me...I've been known to be an oddball! LOL

I do really like the bouquet charms, also.

We're just doing candle with saying! My brother passed in 2004 and FH mother passed away 2005;

I think it might be a good idea to have the memory table be sweet or funny family pictures with both alive and passed away loved ones, not just memorial pictures. So people don't see it and go "look at all the people we're missing" and instead it's "oh remember that time" and "that was a great relationship/person"

Out of topic but I didnt know people called it the "dead table", that's rude af

I am doing the memorial table. My mom died in august and it is hard enough planning a weddibg wihout her, i couldnt imagine not having a part of her there.

I was in a wedding this weekend and on the table with their childhood photo albums they had a bouquet of flowers in a vase with a note that said, "In loving memory of Grammy". I thought that was very sweet and tastefully done.

We are having old wedding pictures of parents grandparents and great grandparents, so of course some are no longer with us. We will also have a candle burning by the photos for those no longer with us. Our engagement album will be on the same table along with guest book. So I think people will enjoy looking at all the pictures