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Nelena

Memorials at wedding

Nelena, on January 21, 2022 at 8:33 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 16
Is anyone doing a memorial section at your wedding?!? We have talked about doing one as I have lost a lot of family members around the time of my wedding that’s why I chose the date I chose. And I’m not sure what to do for them. Any ideas or suggestions?!? Please and thank you!!

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Latest activity by Nelena, on April 25, 2022 at 4:13 PM
  • Caitlin
    Devoted January 2023
    Caitlin ·
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    I plan to. I lost two grandparents between august 2020 and February 2021 and then my fiancé’s older sister passed may 2019. I want to have a little table with lights, flowers and photos basically saying that we wish they were here to celebrate with us on our special day but that we know they’re looking down with smiles on their faces
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  • Lynne
    Super August 2022
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    We are going to put pictures in frames for the ceremony and reception.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    This is just my opinion, but I’m not a fan of “decor” that’s used for a memorial. Having a table full of their photos pointing out the fact that they aren’t there could be upsetting for your guests. You want your wedding to be a happy time, not a memorial for those that have passed. I would remember your family members in a way that’s more personal and discreet. Wear their jewelry, tie an article of their clothing around your bouquet, play a song that reminds you of them.
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  • Samantha
    Expert April 2022
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    Memorials at wedding 1 We are going to display family wedding photos similar to this photo through the years alongside their mementos (cake topper, wedding china, silver tray, handkerchief, clutch, etc). The display is to both recognize all the long marriages in our families and remember those that are no longer with us (his father, his paternal and maternal grandparents, my paternal grandparents).



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  • bevbabe
    Devoted June 2023
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    I'm just doing a moment of silence. For me personally, having empty chairs or their photos would make me too sad that they aren't here.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    I agree with this. Memorial setups can be triggering to those who are still grieving and can dampen the mood. Keep any memorial honor as discreet as possible.
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  • Nelena
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    Wow I absolutely love this.

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  • Nelena
    Nelena ·
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    Thak you everyone for responding to my post. For everyone who said about it triggering guest we already discussed with family, and they love the idea of us having a memorial.

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  • Jmz
    Expert July 2022
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    We're going to set up a table with wedding photos of our parents and grandparents. We've lost most of our grandparents, so I think it's a nice commemoration.
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  • Bridget
    Savvy October 2023
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    I’m into the spookier side of things and plan to have an ancestors’ table at my Halloween wedding, but I love the idea of doing non spooky memorials like the one pictured with the dresser.


    If you like the idea and you’ve got some familial support for it as a bonus, go for it! You are literally never going to be able to please everyone so stay true to your vision.
    Congrats!
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  • KYLIE
    Super May 2019
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    Wow, this is beautiful!


    We had a small round table at our reception tucked to the side of our mingling area that had votive candles and photos of the people who would have been invited to our wedding had they been alive—my dad, my husband’s aunt, maternal grandparents and paternal grandfather. It was lovely and definitely made a few of our guests emotional, but in a “wow that’s so lovely you’re including their memory” kind of way. We received nothing but positive reception and anyone who would have tried to make us feel bad about it would not have been responded to kindly.
    Additionally, during our cocktail hour I had our violinist play a special song for my dad—You’ll Never Walk Alone, from the musical Carousel and the rally song for his favorite soccer team. The only person who knew about it besides me was my brother, and we were able to have a special moment around it.
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  • E
    Devoted February 2023
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    We will be as my husband lost his step father and younger sister due to COVID in 2020. We will be honoring his step father and sister by reserving seats for them at the ceremony with photos of them. He is also surprising his mom by having their dance be to his her and his stepdad's first dance song.

    Our grandparents will end up being honored more simply through photos at a traditional memorial table.

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  • Kelly
    Rockstar October 2023
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    I love this! I think I'll do the same thing. It feels wrong not to acknowledge one of the most important people in my life at my wedding.

    ETA: When my grandmother died, my cousin made shadow boxes for everyone in the family as a memorial. I'll use that along with pictures of her and her husband and gardenias, her favorite flower.

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  • Nelena
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    Wow I love that!! Sounds absolutely beautiful 💕💕
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated August 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    We had our florist place a single white rose on the chairs that my husband's parents and my dad would have sat in. My husband also mentioned everyone that passed away during his speech at the reception. Memorials at wedding 2



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  • Nelena
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    Oooh wow that’s beautiful
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