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CountryBride
VIP April 2022

Memorial what do you think?

CountryBride, on February 2, 2021 at 4:26 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

Please be honest but nice I am still grieving for those who don't know I had a stillborn in December and I need an extra set of eyes to see if this is going to look good or too much. Due to having quite a few family members pass we decided instead of having pictures of those family members we would have a sign with the names of our deceased loved ones. with a lit candle and a sign that says we know you would be here today if heaven wasn't so far away with our babies ern. set on a beautiful fireplace mantel at our venue, we don't want it to be morbid. also, I am having a charm of my son's ultrasound for my bouquet is this too much? anyone has other ideas they are welcomed.

10 Comments

Latest activity by Maggie, on February 3, 2021 at 1:42 PM
  • Chantelle
    Devoted October 2021
    Chantelle ·
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    Hello! I am so sorry for your losses. I wish you lots of peace and healing! ♥️ I understand your concerns, but please do not let anyone sway you away from honoring/grieving loved ones the way you imagine. Normally, the first idea or first thought on any topic is your most authentic, honest self and probably should just stick with it! Weddings are a happy event, but there is nothing wrong with honoring loved ones on your day the way you see fit. Good luck! Hugs ♥️
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  • Tory
    Devoted May 2022
    Tory ·
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    I personally don’t think this sounds morbid at all! I think it will be really meaningful to include the names and items of people who you’ve lost recently. I’m also so sorry for your loss, stay strong ❤️
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  • M
    Super June 2021
    Melanie ·
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    So sorry for you loss! I don't think this is morbid in any way. I think it's it's great way you honor your son and loved ones. I love the ultrasound in your bouquet idea
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. I think what you want to do sounds lovely. However, depending on how many names, just having the the sign with the message without the list of names is another option.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    Awww so sorry love. That is heartbreaking. It's your wedding so however you see fit to honor loved ones is all okay
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Sorry for your loss. i think that sounds fine for honoring the loved ones

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    Savvy April 2023
    Bri ·
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    I’m so so sorry about your son! 💙 I think you should 100% honor your loved ones in whatever way YOU feel is most appropriate. That being said, i think an urn may be a little much. Now, please take my opinion with a grain of salt! The only person who can make this decision is you and your FH. I lost my father and I’m also thinking of ways to honor him. I wouldn’t do the urn personally, but I love the idea of the ultrasound pic in your bouquet!! I’m leaving an empty seat in the front row as an honor. Some people may think that’s weird. Again, I wouldn’t do the urn, but it’s all about how YOU feel.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I'm so sorry. I miscarried last July, and my dear friends/BMs lost their baby just a few days later. You're not alone.

    Having a small memorial isn't morbid - it's very common, actually, and a beautiful way to have a place for our loved ones who have passed.

    Our venue had a niche of shelves in the cocktail/lobby space, so we picked out some special photos and put them there.

    However you choose to honor those who passed, is the right way.

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  • Samantha
    VIP October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I am so sorry for your loss. Those ideas sound lovely. I can read the grief in your words and my heart goes out to you.
    May your day being you comfort and joy.
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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I think the biggest concern people have about memorials at weddings is how they might make other mourners feel. Like, if your parent recently died and you put up a memorial without checking how your siblings would feel about seeing that at your wedding. So, as long as you and your partner are in agreement about how you are planning to commemorate your baby's death, then you are fine.

    If any of the other losses you mention are recent, I would just caution you to check with anyone else mourning them to see how they would feel about seeing those photos displayed. But otherwise, carry on.

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