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Memorial at Wedding

Kika, on July 9, 2019 at 4:38 PM Posted in Planning 0 10
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My FH and I have an unfortunate amount of deaths in our family. Some of them where close to both of us. I want to put up a sign “If heaven wasn’t so far away, we know you’d be here today” because my sisters and I have a similar tattoo. But here’s my problem. I don’t want pictures up because it would look a little morbid (and we are already doing a Halloween wedding!). I also don’t want pictures up too because I don’t want to put a picture of my grandfather up. He just passed but a couple of months later I found out he did some really bad things to my other cousins, nothing to me physically he was just always mean; but not a lot of my family knows. Is that okay that I don’t put pictures up and people just take the message as is?

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Latest activity by Erin, on July 9, 2019 at 9:54 PM
  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    My fiancee and I have a significant amount of losses too. I don't think you have to have pictures unless you want them. I think the sign is a great way to honor the people you want to

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  • Kika
    Savvy October 2022
    Kika ·
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    Thank you for the reply! Just keep going back and forth with the idea
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    I know it's not an easy choice. We think of weddings as happy, but there is some sadness for those who aren't there

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  • Kristen
    VIP June 2020
    Kristen ·
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    We are also doing a sign with that saying. No pictures though, because we were having trouble deciding who to include picture of or who not to. We will also mention something on our wedding program.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    That’s a nice idea.

    I asked my hubby if he wanted photos of his mom & grandma but he said no because he & his brother would be too sad at our wedding.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I've seen a candle with a sign that it was lit for those who couldn't be there, I've seen pictures, I've seen a list of names, so whatever you want is totally fine!

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I think it's okay if you don't want to display pictures! PP has given you a great idea with having a candle in memorial of loved ones

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  • Futuremrsk
    VIP August 2019
    Futuremrsk ·
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    It's totally your choice whether you have pictures or not. I like the idea of the sign, with maybe a candle burning. We face a similar thing, we both have lost a lot of people. I'm not sure if we are doing anything just yet, except for a moment of silence during our ceremony.
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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    It’s totally your choice - it’s whatever works for you. We are having the memory board w/ the heaven saying & are listing out our grandparents names.
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  • Erin
    Dedicated July 2019
    Erin ·
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    We have lost a lot of family members as well. We did the candle burning with a sign as well as photos of just my mom and his parents. You could easily do the candle and sign with no photos. I don't have any pictures yet but will post one when I do!


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