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Mean bridesmaid! Help!!

Kim, on June 12, 2014 at 7:00 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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I recently got engaged and I am getting married June 12 2015, most of my bridesmaids are very easy going.. Except one. My fiance sister in law.. She is all about attention and making sure she gets her words in. Yes I chose the bridesmaids dress that will suite everyone ( I gave the sizes to the bridal shop) they will still all try the dress on but it's my #1 choice. She finally told me that she is mad because she is not my maid of honor. I recently lost my sister in a car accident and she has tried to act like one since this all happened. But I chose my best friend from work to be my maid of honor.. After all it is my choice! Anyways, as part of the bridesmaids gifts I will be paying for their make-up to get done.. I asked her and she took about 30 seconds to response with a "nope" also, she will conveniently be pregnant on my wedding date so " I might have to go short". I was also told that with me picking out the bridesmaid dress I don't care what the other girls think . So I'm trying to figure out how to deal with her snotty comments and actions.. :-/

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Latest activity by Elle, on June 12, 2014 at 10:33 PM

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Munkos · on June 12, 2014 at 7:13 PM
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Why is she in your bridal party? I'd probably find a way to do without her! She doesn't sound like a close friend or family member to YOU, and that's what your bridesmaids should be!
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Emily · on June 12, 2014 at 7:17 PM
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Well, have you considered that you maybe haven't been the most considerate bride to deal with?

Going ahead and picking a dress for them to wear without giving them any input on the style or allowing them the courtesy of trying it on before it's ordered, isn't very considerate. You don't KNOW that it will look good on all body types. I would hate to be told to wear a dress I've never tried.

Make-up for your wedding isn't a gift to them. It's for your wedding. Perhaps FSIL would prefer to do her own makeup.

And I'm not sure what you mean by "conveniently pregnant". Pretty sure her pregnancy has nothing to do with your wedding, nor should it be a problem for her to be a pregnant bridesmaid.
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Elle · on June 12, 2014 at 10:33 PM
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She doesnt sound like she is trying to be very understanding of your vision, nor very supportive of you. You dont need her if you're not close to her and if she is causing you grief.
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