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Just Said Yes September 2023

Meal request

Alexis, on August 7, 2022 at 5:39 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 1 27
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Hi everyone, I really just need to vent because I feel silly for even feeling this way.. my soon to be sister-in law plus one (who I don’t care for to begin with) only eats chicken nuggets and fries.. he’s 21 years old. We are having no children at the wedding except one because my fiancés cousin will be 7 at the time and all my cousins are over the age of 35. Anyone under the age of 10 will get nuggets as their meal. He won’t pick a meal because he won’t be getting the nuggets. Am I wrong for feeling mad that not even for one day will he have a different food for our wedding and I don’t wanna give him nuggets?


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Latest activity by Willow, on August 9, 2022 at 9:41 AM
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    Devoted September 2022
    Sara ·
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    He's a grown a$$ man. He needs to eat an adult meal at a wedding. Don't order him nuggets. Pick a meal for him if he won't make a decision.

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  • Traci
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    Traci ·
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    I think if he wants to eat the children's food selection then let him eat nuggets at least he will eat it. If he had to get the food for adults it might go to waste. Let him look silly eating nuggets lol 😆.
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    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Alexis ·
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    That’s how I feel too! We know for sure he won’t be getting us a gift either because he has no job and also all he’ll wanna do is drink! But if you are not adult enough to want to eat an actual meal I feel like he shouldn’t be able to drink
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle Online ·
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    While I wouldn’t mind making an exception for a best friend, that is not the case here. He can pick the adult meal option or decline the invitation.
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  • Kelly
    Rockstar October 2023
    Kelly ·
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    I agree that you should just pick something for him. He's not a child.

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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I guess I have a different opinion from others. Is it silly and ridiculous that he only eats chicken nuggets and fries? Sure, maybe. He may have a sensory issue that he doesn't advertise or he may just be a ridiculously picky eater. Either way, I guess I just don't see what the issue is if it's already something you're serving to others, even if those others are kids. I think the real issue is that you don't care for this person entirely.
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  • Cece
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    Completely agree. I don’t see the issue here. Everyone has preferences when it comes to foods, and I don’t know why it would be appropriate to force someone to eat something they don’t like at your wedding. If he wants the chicken nuggets, give him the chicken nuggets! And bonus: I’m sure those meals are cheaper also.
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  • Alyssa
    Super October 2023
    Alyssa ·
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    Is there a price difference? If there's no financial reason, or if the caterer won't allow it, then just let him have it. If not let him know you can't accommodate and have him bring his own food.
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  • Michael
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    Michael ·
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    Maybe he can trade with some of the kids who might like real food. Just assign him one of the adult meals and let things go from there.

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    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Alexis ·
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    Kids price is half, but since he’s an adult, it’s full price even for chicken nuggets.
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  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
    Michael ·
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    If he is somewhere on the autism spectrum or with some other condition, it may influence what he can eat.

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  • Taylor
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    Taylor ·
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    Totally agree to this

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  • Taylor
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    Taylor ·
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    I myself am a picky eater. Not only eat chicken nuggets type of picky lol but still I don't have the widest variety of things I like. I don't think it's fair for anyone to judge what he decides to eat and why. I know there's all kinds of reasons why someone might not eat certain things or only eat others. Or do things we don't understand. I have adhd and am bothered by plenty of things others are not. Plus I don't think a normal 21 year old man would just eat chicken nuggets. There's probably something else going on no one has picked up on yet. My sister is 23 and exactly like this. She has never been diagnosed on the spectrum but we both have diagnosed anxiety and if she was ever diagnosed that way I wouldn't be shocked. I think your issue is that you don't like this person so you're just bothered by anything they do. It doesn't have any real effect on you if he eats the nuggets you're already offering to someone else

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  • Julija
    Expert October 2023
    Julija ·
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    I understand your frustration, but talk with FSIL and see if there’s something there. Also, if you don’t like him then don’t invite him. If it’s a known fact I doubt there will be too much push back unless your fiancé is okay with him.
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  • Natalie
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    Natalie ·
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    I can see where this could be irritating since he is someone you already do not like. I think there is possibly another thing that needs factored in. Do you want this man drinking on an empty stomach? If there is a chance he would drink too much and be a fool, I’d go with the lesser of the two evils and just get him the nugs!
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  • Jacks
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    Eh, I'd probably just get him the nuggets and not make it a big thing. You don't know why he has food issues, and if nuggets are already being served it's not like it's a big deal. If this was someone you liked and understood you probably would provide the nuggets, right?

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    Deb ·
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    I would tell him you could order the nuggets but it is considered a kids meal and it won’t include alcohol.

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    Just Said Yes August 2022
    Christine ·
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    Give him the nuggets and save your sanity! It’s probably cheaper anyways and put them at a table with children!
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    Devoted September 2022
    Carissa ·
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    I dont even know why you're concerning yourself with it, tbh. The guests eat what they're provided, or they can choose to not eat. Dietary restrictions for health/allergies are one thing, but someone's pickiness is not my concern 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  • Paige
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    I get that that's annoying, but you'd be paying the price for an adult meal if he picked one of those anyways, so you might as well just let him have the nuggets and put it out of your mind. Like others have mentioned, he may have some kind of issue going on, and you don't want him to be drinking on an empty stomach.

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