My fiancé and I are in the early stages of planning our wedding (like just booking our venue tomorrow kind of early) and I’m already getting pressure from my mother about inviting people I don’t want at the wedding. They’re her friends, three out of four who I don’t have a real relationship with—just an exchange of pleasantries. They don’t even know my fiancé’s name or how we met; the one other person she wants to invite is nice but I don’t want her invited just because my mom was invited to her son’s wedding a few months ago. I know four extra people doesn’t seem like a lot, but three of them have spouses and my fiancé and I agreed on a specific number for the guest list which we’ve already exceeded.
My my parents are helping us by paying for half of the wedding, and I really do appreciate it. But I want my wedding to be intimate and I don’t want anyone there who hasn’t had a role or significant meaning in my life. I’ve already broken down crying about this twice before and I don’t see a way to have this discussion without us fighting again. Does anybody have any advice? What’s the standard protocol or etiquette in this case?
Also, I don’t know if this gives any context, but I want to add I come from a big Filipino family. Thanks much.
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