My FH and I are going to have a DW (family scattered worldwide, might as well all meet somewhere). It is extremely important to us that our kids are included (I have 3 he has 1--I can't imagine getting married without mine present and I would hate for his to not be either). However, it's hard to get his ex-wife to coordinate his rightful court ordered time let alone taking their daughter away for a week. Their relationship is strictly theirs and I don't like meddling--but it isn't rocket science to say they don't get along...at all.
If FH's parents make it, it would also be the first time they meet their grandchild who will be nearly 7 on the wedding date. Outside of the wedding part, I'd love for them to finally meet her as well.
I want to offer to purchase airfare and a hotel for the ex-wife if she'll allow their daughter to come to the wedding. I don't want to invite her to the wedding festivities themselves but flying her there and housing her and allowing her to do what she wants to so their daughter can participate, meet grandparents, etc. I would pay for this myself. Is this stepping on too many toes? Too weird? Risk kiddo not being able to go without her/her rightfully so not wanting to pay to attend her ex husbands new wedding? Should I just stay out of it and let him work it out? I just feel awful if my kids are in those photos looking back and she isn't