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Maybe Cancelling Wedding Advice

Jennifer, on June 10, 2019 at 7:49 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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So last Thursday my dad had a heart attack and barely survived. I think it was stress induced. He takes care of everyone and is currently remodeling his house, my brothers, and all his other jobs(he’s in construction). And our family is had some pretty dramatic stuff happen. As a result I was talking to my FH about cancelling our 120 guest wedding and doing something with just our immediate family and maybe having a party a few months later to celebrate. I just want to save my dad the stress of having to plan a big wedding and have to make sure the house is done(that’s where the reception was going to be)
so i would like to know if that is appropriate and how do I let everyone know that they are basically uninvited to the wedding. The save the dates have been sent but no formal invitation.

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Latest activity by Victoria, on June 10, 2019 at 8:13 PM

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Margaret · on June 10, 2019 at 7:56 PM
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I think that is more than appropriate if that is what you and FH decide on. So long as you let people know ASAP, then that's totally ok.
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Kelly · on June 10, 2019 at 7:59 PM
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You could just send letters saying due to some unforeseen circumstances your wedding is cancelled and or postponed until further notice. I'm sure everyone will understand your father's health is priority to you.
Hoping he has a smooth recovery
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Yamina · on June 10, 2019 at 8:01 PM
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You are so considerate and such a loving daughter.... Give your dad the peace of mind so that his health gets better. He would love seeing you get married weather is just the 3 of you or 120 guests!!
Have a small intimate wedding and celebrate later! Your guests and family will understand!!!
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Yoice · on June 10, 2019 at 8:07 PM
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I agree with this! I’m glad your dad is ok and I’m sure your guest would all understand. Since std were sent already I say contact them all by sending a note as soon as you decide and have your wedding party later down once house is done and finish.
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Lynne · on June 10, 2019 at 8:10 PM
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That's what one of my cousin's did. She married her husband before their daughter was born, then 5 months after she was born they had a big ceremony for family and friends.
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Victoria · on June 10, 2019 at 8:13 PM
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I would talk to your FH. I would also talk with your father. He may feel like he's the reason you're giving up your dream wedding, even if you know it's not your dream wedding. That's pretty stressful too.

All that said, there's nothing wrong with canceling and having a smaller wedding and a party after. You could even push it up if you're wanting to do an intimate courthouse wedding, or even in a park setting with your families and an officiant. I think small weddings are so romantic and I'm jealous just thinking about it! (Too late for me! 😄)

I'm glad your father survived his heart attack. It's very scary when a parent falls I'll like that. I'm glad he's on the mend!
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