Maybe a slow question

No. Lying and deceiving your friends and family really isn’t the way to start your marriage. If you’re mature enough to get married, you’re mature enough to be honest about it.

You would plan a vow renewal because you will already be married.

I would highly encourage you to let people know you’re married. You don’t need to let them know you’re eloping before the fact, but it would be very deceitful to pretend you weren’t married after the fact. Secrets like this will always get out and will hurt your relationships. Let your friends and family know you eloped and plan a vow renewal for the following year.

View Quoted Comment Thank you we can do that

Is there a reason why you don’t want to get married at the actual ceremony next year? I’ve had the same thoughts of eloping and then having a ceremony but then I️ thought why not wait until then when all of our family and friends are around since I️ was going to do that anyway.

I agree with Meghan. Plan a vow renewal. You shouldn't lie to friends and family about a not being married if you already are. This way, you would still be able to do a full wedding if you want to.

Take it from someone who did that its not the way to go my gma and dad cried cause they wasnt there to share in that memory dont lie to them it hurt and im sure u dont want to do that

View Quoted Comment We made the plans to elope because i didn’t really care to have a wedding as much but after planning the elopement he decided he wanted to have a ceremony the same day next year

View Quoted Comment Sounds like he wants a traditional wedding. Why not cancel the elopement and just do the ceremony? Especially since you’re doing it anyway.

I’m eloping and having a reception a year later. We don’t plan to hide the elopement; all of the people closest to us know we’ll be married soon and are still looking forward to the celebration.


I don’t want other people as spectators to our ceremony. The more I think about it the more it feels really intrusive to me. I want us to have our moment just the two of us. Everyone else can come celebrate with us later. Eloping fits us as a couple so it’s not really surprising or upsetting to our family and friends.
Do what’s best for you, but I would be honest from the very beginning so that you don’t have to keep up with the secret. Honesty is so much easier!

View Quoted Comment Thank you very much

Why not just cancel the elopement and get married next year?

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View Quoted Comment After leaving premarital counseling that’s what decided to do