May wedding

Realistically- COVID will never be gone. I work at a hospital & just talked to the Occ Health director. The vaccine will start rolling out mid December to the 1st of January frontline workers & 1st responders. 2nd wave will go to the elderly & those at high risk around mid to the end of January. 3rd wave will roll around February to the general population. The goal in the US is to have everyone vaccinated March. The vaccine is a 2 part &, depending on the manufacturer, the 2nd shot is 2-4 weeks after the 1st.
Our wedding is 4/3/21 & I’m planning just as normal (we live in AZ). We’re not sending out invitations until mid January & that’s when I’ll call our venue to see about the restrictions. We do have a Plan B just in case.
Will you have an outdoor wedding? What’s the max your venue will allow?

View Quoted Comment Our venue is now having weddings after being shut down in the spring. We still have 15k to pay on our wedding and I’m having a hard time thinking about paying that much for a wedding that may not be what I dream of. People may be wearing masks. At this time they’re not allowing dancing or any fun activities. By the sounds of it it’s almost more like a seminar. I think it’s a lot to ask of our guests. We planned an outdoor ceremony but reception would be indoor/outdoor. And what if I pay for my whole wedding and one of my family members gets covid and aren’t able to attend? I couldn’t have a wedding without them there. That’s what makes me so worried.

View Quoted Comment That’s approximately how much we’re paying too. We have our last payment due the beginning of March with our final headcount. We’re planning on having around 90 guests. I’ve just accepted the fact that not everyone will want to come due to COVID & there’s absolutely nothing I can do about it. Part of our Plan B is streaming the ceremony.

I might be crazy, but I haven’t been holding back on planning. I’m planning as usual and letting the chips fall how they may. What’s going to be will be, but if things do get better I would be upset that I settled on my big day. My wedding will be around 25k all in, I have 15k left to pay. But I will send out invites at the end of March early April and keep my fingers crossed.


Good luck.

View Quoted Comment Great idea!

I used to live in Ohio. I would cut my losses unless the wedding is taking place outdoors.

I would wait to decide because may is months from now and anything can happen. I would at least wait until February to decide

View Quoted Comment I live in Ohio. I had to move my October wedding to my backyard tented. Everything was totally changed up. But it was an amazing day I wouldn’t change a thing. We had 40 people and no one got sick. Due to my best friend being terminally ill I was not moving the date I actually moved it up a few weeks lol. I know the Gov imposed no dancing etc. but he didn’t cut down the amount you can have attend the reception which is 300 and makes zero sense. But neither does anything he does. Also look at the order closer I don’t think dancing is banned at a residence. Only outside of a residence. Our weather is dicy in Ohio around the time you are getting married so if anything maybe move the date? Idk. It all sucks. Seems like only 2022 brides will have normal weddings. So I guess it is deciding if you are ready to get married now and start your life or you would rather wait and have the original wedding you planned. Always go with your gut.

In short — my advice would be to cut your losses and go with an intimate wedding. I feel your pain 100% because we just made the difficult decision to decrease our guest count for our April 2021 wedding. And although parts of me are sad about the family/friends that won’t be attending, 99% of me is so excited to marry the love of my life in front of our very closest loved ones in an intimate setting. That being said — take time to grieve the vision you once had and cry if you need to. The last thing you want is any regrets/resentment about a day that is so special! My thoughts are with you!

I would wait to decide too. It’s hard to tell.

That's still more than 6 months from now.

If it would make you feel better, investigate a Plan B, but don't make any decisions just now.