May 2021 Wedding

I think that May will be much better as far as COVID, however, I think I heard that indoor dining in New York was closed until summer of next year? Is that true? If so I understand why you would be worried about the governors restrictions.

Especially with numbers increasing now. I really hope that they can get this figured out or at least a little more under control soon.

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Restaurants are open for indoor dining, albeit there's a 50% capacity limit in the region I live in. NYC has a 25% limit I believe.

Thank you for your reply! I hope you're right and it does get better soon.

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Yes my brother lives in NYC and I believe indoor dining just opened at the end of September there.

Yikes, sadly, a moderate-sized indoor wedding in 7 months is not looking promising. I’m in Michigan and everything is tightening back up on Monday; with some things put into effect immediately as of her announcements yesterday. Then throw in influenza with Covid, this winter is going to be rough. Not to mention peak for flu isn’t until Jan-March. Indoor wedding limits are at 50 in Michigan as of yesterday. I feel terrible for everyone who had an indoor wedding coming up this fall / winter here 😰😔

I’m in NC and inside capacity is still at 25 people. Outdoor capacity is now 100 and we are also having an indoor venue/wedding. Although I may talk to our venue and see if we can move the ceremony outside (it’s a country club). Our wedding is in July so I’m hoping things are better as far as restrictions. But I am also just as worried

I think a vaccine will be out by then. Hoping everything will work out for you as planned.

I was just talking to my FMIL about this last night. We’re in AZ & our original guest list is at 80. Family will be there & I totally understand if some don’t want to come due to Covid. We’re having an outdoor ceremony with an indoor reception. Here’s to hoping our plans go as we want!

I’m hoping everything will be okay by then. I’m in NY but getting married in Jersey next fall. Have you tried speaking with your venue? We just off the phone with ours and he gave us an update on how they’re handling weddings currently. We plan on having the reception indoors, but just found out that they purchased an outdoor tent. He did say it’s a case by case basis but it was good talking to him about it.

We postponed from Sept 2020 to May 2021. We're moving forward with plans even if it means we need to cut guests (originally were planning for 150). Luckily our venue is basically outdoors. The ceremony is fully outdoors and the reception is in a barn, but it's an actual vintage barn with no insulation and huge doors/windows so air flows through pretty naturally. I hope everything works out for you!

View Quoted Comment Omg that’s the same as us. September 6th 2020 to May 22nd 2021. Our ceremony is outside but reception is inside. I think it’s going to be much better.

I got married this July but moved my reception to next July I am in NY as well with an inside venue getting so nervous again that my postponement will be for nothing because we won’t be able to have everyone. I don’t even know what to do anymore because I have a lot of my money at my venue and really don’t want to start all over I’m just getting to the point where I’m over this but I haven’t worn my dress danced with my dad or anything it’s just so upsetting. I am praying it will be some what better but I know it’s important to have a back up plan as well.

No, I didn't want to risk thousands of dollars. Mind you, I'm still in student loan debt. MANY of my family members and FH's family members refuse to dine inside until a vaccine has been out for at least ONE YEAR, so having a traditional wedding in 2021 was out of the question. We are opting for an elopement outside with just our parents.

We’re in the same boat. We’ve been planning our May wedding since last October and don’t want to postpone. Frankly, I think the idea that gatherings of 100+ people will be safe in May is wildly optimistic. So here’s how we adjusted our planning:


1) We drafted an “A” guest list of the 50 people we can invite safely.2) Our save the dates note that the wedding may be in person or online. (If you already sent these, you can always send a quick email with an update)3) We are hiring a videographer to livestream the wedding.4) We had a call with the venue to talk about the restrictions and how we should adjust our plans. We also discussed whether the venue would allow us to postpone, but decided against it.5) We asked our bridal party to help us brainstorm activities to replace dancing. (So far we have bags and bocce ball for outside, but still thinking about indoor activities.)
We are also looking in to the possibility of having our wedding party get tested the week before our wedding, since we’ll be spending a lot of time in close proximity, but we haven’t quite worked that out yet. Hopefully we are wrong and will be able to have a safe, large wedding, but it has cut down our stress levels to know we have a plan.

Mine is in May in NJ and as of right now we have invited just over 100 people. I’m confident the wedding will happen but its driving me nuts not knowing if we will need masks, if we can dance, and what other restrictions there will be. Especially now that Covid numbers are spiking again. I personally think that 100 person outside weddings will be allowed/can be safe but I am still not sure if I will feel comfortable doing that or if my guests will feel comfortable attending. I already eloped and at this point I just dont even want to do my May wedding because I am so sick of all of this

I also live in NY... we were supposed to have our wedding June 2020 and postponed to May 2021. At the point we are going to have the wedding regardless of what is going on. Yes we will do it within restrictions, but it’s time to choose myself for once. My FH and I have been together for almost 10 years and we are beyond ready to start a family. Our Governor is most likely going to continue adding restrictions onto the list, but I have seen many many wedding go on this summer and fall without a single person getting COVID. Be safe and be strong.

Our Wedding is May 22. Ceremony inside church, reception outside in a beautiful pole barn. Our guest list is currently at 226. Not expecting that many, since 98% of my family is out of state. But we are planning as normal and making adjustments where needed, if needed. I'm in VA.

I'm definitely sick of it, too. I wish things would go back to normal.

We are planning for full-steam ahead in March and will adjust as necessary when we get closer. I think it's possible our plans don't all work out, but I think we should be able to make it work. I'm hoping there will be good testing and people will feel more comfortable making judgments about whether to come or not.

In the end, I just have to take my mind off of the worry because I can't change things. Either way, I think it will be a nice day.

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I'm wondering how flu season will go. The nurse who gave me my flu shot told me the southern hemisphere didn't really have a flu season because so much was closed down. She thinks we might not have much of a flu season here either because so many people are still working from home, homeschooling, not taking public transportation, not flying, etc. I hope she is right

I’m in the same situation for May 21, 2021 in NY with our venue located a half hour outside of NYC and we’re continuing on and keeping the positive. We have a guest count of 135. We created a COVID list as well in case we have to cut it to 50 but we’re keeping everything as planned. Our wedding website is up and we have a Covid page that will give updates. Best we can do along with prayer.

Same for me, postponed from June of 2020, to August, to June 2021. I live in MA, and same for us our governor keeps adding onto the restrictions. We aren't even allowed to sing.. so i am hoping by June some miracle happens. I will be going through with the wedding regardless because we do not want to continue waiting. I am sick of all of this as well and I don't want to keep pushing my plans off because of it. Whoever feels comfortable will attend, my friend just got married last week without a hitch! Best of luck!