Mature Bride - Bachelorette Party?

I'd tell whoever told you about the shower to hint to your MOH that you'd prefer it to be more of just a fun party than a shower. if you don't have a registry, people will be confused as to what to get you. maybe they will just bring cash, but you might end up with a lot of gifts you don't want. do you drink wine? maybe suggest a wine party where everyone brings a bottle of wine instead of a gift

eta: i realized you meant older. which i still don't think means you should or shouldn't have bridesmaids?

I'm pretty sure she means mature as in an older bride.

Yep, winnipeg. i realized that a bit later. i just don't hear that phrase all that often in terms of age.

Good ideas, Shannon! Especially a wine party!

Thanks! Just hope this party wont be too boring, which, just for the record, showers always are. It isn't exciting to watch anyone opening gift after gift after gift, appliances, linens, etc. I hated my first shower over 40 years ago, and nothing's changed over the years.

I'm "mature" too. My friends wanted to plan an entire weekend at the beach for me, I simply told them that it was too much. I recommended a nice dinner or tickets to a baseball game.

I guess it depends on how sensitive your MOH is. My sister is my MOH and i just let her know that I absolutely do NOT want a shower (even though she was trying to convince me to have both). She got the point and I don't have to attend to an event that I'm not even interested in.

I not a "mature" bride but I'm not one for partying and all that stuff. So for my bachelorette the BMs are planning a night at a really nice downtown hotel, dinner, massage and high tea the next morning. That's exactly what I would have planned for myself. All of the BMs (except my sister) would have liked the whole bar hopping thing but I made my feelings known, no feelings were hurt. They want to celebrate me and don't want me to be miserable lol.