Matrons and Maids

Usually people only pick one. Because if everyone is an "of honor" then the title loses its meaning.

Absolutely! Although traditionally people only picked one (or one of each), it has become very popular to have multiples in recent years

I think it depends on how many bridesmaids you plan on having. I also agree with Michelle that but giving numerous people the honor title it takes away from it really being an honor.

View Quoted Comment I have 7 total bridesmaids, one being a junior bridesmaid!

View Quoted Comment Well the choice is up to you, but the more you have the less of an honor I feel it really is. Also depending on how well you the girls know each other and their personalities they might try to battle over things like who is in charge or who gets to stand next to you.

Who would come after you, the police? ... This is not a matter of etiquette, except that people understand that it is an honorary position not a job with duties, and that MOH of any kind is not a supervisor of your other bridesmaids. You deal with each bridesmaid directly and not through your MOH. .......Having one or two Maids /Matrons of Honor is customary or traditional, but it is not bad manners or poor understanding of etiquette to have more, or none. That means, it is usually done, not that you have to. Just as it is customary to have 1-3 bridesmaids for either very small or very informal weddings, up to six only for large weddings of at least semiformal dress and presentation, and up to 10 for the very most formal as well as large weddings.
I tend to think it is more of an honor to be the 1 or 2 chosen. But if you I had a couple of cousins or sisters, one my twin, and 3-4 hometown friends, and 3 from college and work, I might have 3 MOH, one twin, hometown bestie, and my closest adult best friend. And worry about what the heck I would do with a huge WP, not how many MOH were in it. Do what does not hurt anybody, and feels right to you.

It’s technically fine, but I personally don’t think it’s as much of an honor if there’s 3 of them.

I don't see why it would not be okay. It's your wedding, do you.

So many valid points. Having so many maids/matrons - the Honor losses it’s meaning. However, this is your wedding. you do you!

That’s what I have! 2 matrons and a maid of honor. I don’t care what anyone says, I couldn’t pick and they all were thrilled, even if they have to “share” the titles. Each one of them is playing their own very important part of my wedding with planning and each feels that importance as they have voiced it to me. For example, my maid of honor is a graphic designer. She’s not a great party planner, so she said her part will be to do all of my save the dates, invitations, and any table numbers/place cards/organization of the guest list I need. My first matron of honor is a great party planner so she’s going to take control of planning our Jack and Jill, the bachelorette and she’s even doing a special treat for the morning of our wedding day. My second matron of honor is a whiz with the Cricut and has her own small business, and she lives out of state, so she’s doing a bunch of the decor for all of the events. Also, one of my matrons of honor isn’t a big public speaker, so she opted to not do a speech and is grateful there are two other people who will so she doesn’t have to. Just a matter of how things are looked at.

View Quoted Comment Love this! You have some rockstar MOHs!!

I have heard of people having more then one maid of honor however if you have too many then the title looses it's meaning

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I really do, I lucked out big time!

I don't see a problem with it. I have 2 MOH & 4 bridesmaids

I think it’s a matter of importance to each bride. I have two biological sisters, one is my matron and the other is my maid but I also have three besties. They are bridesmaids. Although I have amazing best friends who clearly would make great MOHs, my choice was easy. So whatever you decide, however you come to that decision, those that love you will support you in whatever position they’re given. Tradition sets rules. It’s your wedding. Do whatever will make you happy.

I literally have 3 matron of honor and 2 men of honor. It’s 2020 ya’ll. My friend group is SUPER close knit and for me it really just made the title more of an honor to have them all equally be apart of it. They all are excited & happy that they all share the title, because we are all very close and equally important to each other. I really don’t see how there’s a way that having too many takes away the honor. They all still get the same duties, they all are important on the day? I think that perhaps if there are people you aren’t as close with then maybe in that case they should not have the honor of that title.
My fiancé on the other hand only has groomsmen, he never gave any of them the official title of best man.
I think the best advice I could possibly give when it comes to your wedding is to do what YOU want to do. Not to care if it looks weird to someone else, or if someone else will harshly critique it. Ultimately they will forget the day as the years go by, but you won’t. So don’t make decisions about your biggest, most special day, based on the opinions of anyone but yourself and your partner. If it feels special to you then it’s the right choice.

If almost half your wedding party is going to be MoH, the other half of the bridal party will probably feel left out. 3 out of 7 is significant


I'd just call them all bridesmaids

Traditionally a matron of honor is married, a maid of honor is not married. You can have bridesmaids to be married or not but I always think of them as not married because they are "maids", but that is just me. In the end, you do you. It's your wedding. Have 27 Matrons of Honor and none of the rest. It's all up to you

You can do whatever makes you happy! I have 1 maid of honor and 1 matron of honor.

My two best friends and I have been a trio in our friendship for over 10 years. It would be impossible for me to choose so they’re both my Maid of Honors! It’s your wending and you get to choose who stands beside you! I also have my bridesmaids and bridesmen!