Matron of honor

Absolutely say something. It’s not okay to disparage someone else’s relationship. Please consider creating clear boundaries with this friend about what is and isn’t appropriate in your friendship. I get that some people just have a twisted sense of humor, so it may just be a joke to her but it’s not appropriate.

Definitely say something, she may not realize she's out of line. She needs to understand that it's absolutely not her place to make negative comments about your FH or your relationship.

You definitely need to have a talk with her. The next time she says something negative you need to bring it up in that moment. Some people think by being harsh it shows you that they care but in reality it comes off that their being rude/negative. She may be oblivious to what she is doing. When it happens I would say i don't know if you realize this but when you say things like that it comes off like your being negative and not being supportive and as my maid of honor I need you to be on my team. Tell her you value her opinions and thoughts but she needs to find a better way to share it with you. I'd say your my person and I hope you can be there for me and let me feel comfortable coming to you without thinking your going to be a debbie downer about things.

Hi Cady! I’m really sorry that you are going through this with your MOH. If you feel like she is making negative comments towards your relationship, this is definitely something that you should discuss with her. As Samantha mentioned, some people may have an unusual sense of humor but it is not acceptable if you find it upsetting.

You can simply explain to her that you are not comfortable with her making comments like this and ask her to stop. She may not understand that you are hurt about the things she says.