Matron of honor

Since it is your wedding, you should keep her in the loop on your plans. She might be waiting to hear from you. Have you reached out to her about wedding plans/dresses/etc?

Have you discussed any roles with her? Many people have no idea what the duties of a MOH are, or its possible that she doesn't want to take over or seem like she is stepping on your toes. I think you should reach out to her

I think the previous posts have asked the questions, have you reached out to her and let her know what her duties and your expectations are?

There is usually nothing a Bridesmaid or MOH needs to do before 6-7 months out, sometimes 5. BM and MOH are not responsible for planning showers, or bachelorettes . any close friend or family female can do them, and BP os chosen from that group, so often they are the ones, but it does not come as job duties.
They have to volunteer to do it. And smallish showers, home, yard, small restaurant, only take a few months to plan and don't happen usually until 1-3 months out. So even if she is planning to volunteer to do one, she might not start til 4-6 months, same as anyone else. And dresses are only $150-$250 for , and so people try to order them as close to the wedding as possible so they do not change sizes and need alterations that cost $250-300 extra. That usually means dress shopping for MOH and BM dresses begins around 6 months, and orders go in around 4 months, and are received 2 to 10 weeks later.
If you want to see het or talk to her, call her up. Do not go by long lists in websites that list 30 things some MOH has done, and think it applies to yours. A MOH is an honorary title, with few things to do. If your aint has been in or around weddings before, she knows this, and is waiting for you to get things started. Also, MOH is not a captain or in any way in charge of the other bridesmaids. They are chosen by you, and she is not a supervisor. They may talk to each other to see if some or all of them want to give a shower or bachelorette. Or some of your other friends and family, or FSIL or FMIL may talk with them about doing the parties.You cannot fault her for not doing anything when there is nothing she has to do yet. You and FI plan the wedding. You get together with MOH and all BM. And since it is only an honorary title, usually given to your closest or longest friend, or a relative, you cannot take the title away and give it to someone else, unless you are throwing her out of the wedding and ending your friendship. You cannot demote and promote. ..........Any BM can plan a shower or bach, not just MOH. But it sounds like you are waiting for her to do some magic thing. You start contacting others, and her. A lot of brides have unrealistic expectations, because TV and websites create fantasies, and do not show what really happens. Your MOH and do not start anything when you ask them to be BM and do things continuously til the wedding. They do things only when needed. And the bride informs them. At 9 months, so far she "should have done " nothing. Same as everyday life.

I agree with the statement above. If there’s anything you need to convey to your MOH, give her a call! I think as brides, we have been conditioned by the Hallmark channel to think our bridesmaids and MOHs are going to be giggling, squealing, excited for us and it’s going to be all wedding all the time... in reality, people will rarely express any interest or excitement beyond the first couple weeks after the engagement. Usually excitement picks up again close to the wedding. You obviously asked her to be your MOH because she is someone closest to you in your life, so I see no reason to demote her from that position. If you truly feel you need someone who is going to be more involved, or if you feel you are going to have lots of duties you will need help with, you may want to consider promoting another bridesmaid to co-MOH

What exactly should she be asking you about 9 months out?

I don’t think you should demote her. Some people honestly don’t even know what is expected of them

Im 10 months out nad my matron of honor isnt doing much because its so far out what does she need to be doing!?

She has asked me ideas for bach/ shower and dates and im even like UUHHH i dont know because its far out?

I would only "demote her from the role" if you also plan to demote her from being your aunt.