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Just Said Yes January 2021

Matron of Honor

Lauren, on March 14, 2020 at 9:51 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 9

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Hi all,
I had a question for you all. I wanted to ask one of my best friends to be my maid of honor! There isn't really a problem, but she's currently pregnant and due in August. My wedding is in January 2021. My only concern is that with the 5-6 months in between her giving birth and my wedding I want her to be as involved as possible. Do you think that it would be hard for her to complete her MOH duties after giving birth (her baby number 2) She's going to be a bridesmaid no matter what. I was thinking about doing both a maid and matron of honor but I don't want that to get to complicated. Thoughts??

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Latest activity by Theadra, on March 17, 2020 at 8:27 PM

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Shannon · on March 14, 2020 at 10:27 PM
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If you really want to ask her you have to accept that she will be as involved as she can be but that may not be as involved as you want her to be. If that is going to be a problem for you then you may want to ask a different friend
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Caytlyn · on March 14, 2020 at 10:43 PM
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Her only duty is to purchase a dress and show up for the wedding. Being your sister, I’m assuming she will do that even without the MOH title. I don’t see how having a baby would stop that.
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Lauren · on March 14, 2020 at 10:46 PM
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Hi Caytlyn,

She's a friend, not a relative. I wanted to make her my matron if honor, but am not sure if it's to much for her in terms of planning and being as involved as possible. She's going to be apart of it no matter what.
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Caytlyn · on March 14, 2020 at 10:49 PM
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Sorry, for some reason I thought I read sister. Your MOH should be your closest friend, not who can do the most for you. I would still go with your best friend.
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Katie · on March 14, 2020 at 11:18 PM
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My MOH had a baby a week ago and the wedding will be in June. Her pregnancy had changed nothing with being involved! The only thing that has changed is the amount of time she can spend away from home when it comes to the girls trip! She is my best friend in the whole world and I wouldn’t want anyone else being by my side!
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Hanna · on March 15, 2020 at 12:07 AM
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I agree with Caytlyn. Your MOH is an honorary title and should be the person closest to you, not the person who will be the most involved. Her only "duty" is to buy the dress you select/approve of and show up/help out on the day of the wedding. My advice is to choose the person you are closest to!
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Lauren · on March 15, 2020 at 12:26 AM
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Hi all,

I'm not saying I'm gonna pick someone that only plans stuff. I have 2 best friends and I love them both dearly. I don't want to put added pressure on a friend. I also think we have different ideas about a maid/matron of honor role. They are suppose to be helpful in the planning process. My friend has actively said she wants to plan my Bach party but we'd have to have that relatively Close to after the birth of her baby.
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Hanna · on March 15, 2020 at 2:04 AM
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Yes, we do have different ideas about what MOH "duties" entail. I don't see why you can't have both of them though? I've been to more weddings with two MOHs than I can count--it's very common to have two. This would allow you to choose the person closest to you AND the person who will plan things for you, since this seems to be important. There is nothing wrong with having two!
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Theadra · on March 17, 2020 at 8:27 PM
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Yes girl, its your wedding and you can do what you want! I have two maid of honors. One is my closest cousin (who is like my sister) in NY and one is my best friend out here in Cali. My bf is close to me but not really dependable on the planning part but would just be there for support. While my cousin is all about "the duties" and likes to be hands on , but she lives far. At the end of the day , you know your friend better than we do. It would prob be better if you asked her and see how she feels.
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